Just looking for opinions and Im willing to be told IABU.
I split with exdp a couple of months after dd4 (shes now nearly 3) was born due to his infedelity and anger issues.
We remained amicable and had an open door arrangement for visitation.
Unfortunatly due to circumstances beyond my control I have had to move 2 hours away with my DCs and we agreed exdp could have dd4 every week on a tuesday/wednesday as he didnt work those two days and DD4 isnt in preschool.
EXDP then chose to change his shifts so he works monday to friday (we work for the same company so I know it was his choice) and wants DD4 every weekend.
I have said no because weekends are the only time we get to spend time as a family and its not fair on her to miss out on things with her siblings all the time (I work fulltime too).
I have countered with he can have her at his every third weekend friday night to sunday night and come take her out every other saturday (not to his), plus split school holidays.
He says IABU I dont think I am, his mum does all the childcare anyway and I believe thats why he changed his shifts because it meant she couldnt look after dd4 due to her work.
I have said if he disagrees he can go through the courts and he is now ignoring me as I am offering what I believe is best for DD4 not for me or him.
He asked to have her for half term next week which I agreed to split but I havent been able to discuss it with him due to him being unresponsive.
AIBU?
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Custody arrangement, sorry long.
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Mildinsanity · 28/05/2016 21:49
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