2 years ago my daughters best friend got cancer. They were both 14, he was a boy. They both have moderate learning disabilities. Through their friendship I became very good friends with his mum, and so we were very keen to support them through this horrendous time. We visited hospital twice a week when he was in, and would have him round regularly when he was at home. This went on for about 8 months with no problems, and then my daughter told me he was getting her to play' bouncing games' and asking her to open her legs, and she didn't like it. I didn't know what to do - she was very innocent, but clearly uncomfortable, and I don't think he meant to be abusive, he was urge driven with some lack of boundaries because of his LD. My daughter still wanted to be his friend, so we carried on with contact, with me heavily supervising, but it seemed every time I left the room he would be asking her to open her legs ( she was dressed and they were only alone for a minute at a time, so nothing happened). I didn't want to upset my friend, but told her the visits were making my daughter stressed and we withdrew. I think my friend thinks we couldn't be bothered and she won't have anything to do with me now, - he made a good recovery and I see them at school but she blanks me. I feel wretched about the whole situation - that my daughter felt uncomfortable, that my friend felt I had abandoned her and that we weren't there to support him either through s horrendous time. I'm not sure how I could have handled it better or whether I can do anything now? Or should I just leave it?
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Sexual harassment, illness and friendship
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QueenOnAPlate · 18/05/2016 13:56
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