I'll preface this with I don't think I do but DH is worried so I should give it some consideration. It's long but I've summerised at the end.
DS is 4months, wonderful and lovely. He's usually a very happy baby, had jabs on Wednesday so has been a bit out of sorts since then. He is ebf, and a bottle refuser. He feeds every 2 hours day and night pretty much and is fed on demand.
I feel trapped, fat and like my life is nothing but housework and motherhood. I realized today that its exactly1 year to the weekend that I had a decent night out. As two days later I got my bfp. I don't need alcohol to have a good time but it's been a year since I've not had to worry about what I eat, drink, wear or been too sick/tired/uncomfortable to enjoy myself.
I feel trapped. I can't go out without DS except for an hour or so, and that's usually to the supermarket etc, as I don't really have anywhere else to go! We can't go out together and have no time without DS. We have no family near by and DM and PIL are the only people I'd inflict a cranky ds in need of a comfort boob on (all our friends whilst lovely are child free).
I've also got gynae issues which leave me feeling totally unsecured and dirty and so intimacy has suffered, actual sex is impossible, not that I want him touching me anyway.
I can't lose my baby weight, I'm comfort eating as a) breastfeeding leaves me starving and b)food is the only nice thing I have these days (other than DS). I can't do much exercise due to gynae issuesrestricting what I'm able to do and the breastfeeding meaning I can't reliably get to a class I could do.
So, in short, I feel fat (I am overweight), none of my clothes fit me and I don't feel nice in New clothes so am very reluctant to spend money on them (I've tried hoping I'll feel better about myself), I feel unsexy and dirty- the gynae issues are being addressed but it'll be a long road, intimacy is off the table and as a result my relationship is suffering- this is my fault, DH is being caring, loving and sensitive but is starting to get hacked off by my rejection. I feel trapped and as though I'm just a mum and nothing more, the many baby groups I go to aren't helping this. I'm not enjoying breastfeeding though having no issues and never have so to stop feels like a selfish choice iyswim.
I'm taking care of my appearance, wearing make up and showering daily, I'm keeping the house clean and tidy, I'm going out regularly and not spending my days cooped up. I'm very much enjoying my time with ds, he's so wonderful. I've had depression a few years ago- 10 or so and occasional 'down' periods since but I don't feel depressed now and I'm not displaying my usual depression symptoms (irritability, risk taking, itchy feet, poor sleep, ruminating).
Thanks for reading, views welcome.
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Junosmum · 06/05/2016 20:17
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