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JenniferYellowHat1980 · 04/05/2016 09:28

I've just seen something that made me a bit uncomfortable but I think there's probably nothing I can do.

After dropping DS off at nursery I walked past a woman and girl of about 4 sitting on a bench outside a pub that's been closed a while. They were surrounded by bags and the woman was pouring what looked like booze (it could've been something non-alcoholic) into a coffee cup. I walked past again after doing a little bit of shopping and they seemed OK, but I just got the impression that both of them were a bit vulnerable. I gave SS a quick call just to see if there's anything they could do but expecting to be told no, and the person I spoke to said that depending on how I felt about it maybe I could call the police.

I don't know. I live in a really small rural town with no visible homeless population and I wonder if I've just got my judgypants hoiked up too far about the possible booze at 9am.

Would I be wasting police time if I mentioned it?

I mean well, please don't give me a bashing if I come across as a busybody.

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ChinUpChestOut · 04/05/2016 09:32

If you can, walk back and just ask the Mum if everything's all right. Assume the worst - maybe she's been thrown out by her DH, or she felt she had to leave. Or maybe she's lost. At the very least, if she needs a women's refuge, you might be able to make that phone call for her. Or maybe buy her a cup of coffee/juice for the little girl?

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JenniferYellowHat1980 · 04/05/2016 09:33

It's too late, I didn't want to intrude at the time and then they went to a charity shop. To be honest I was probably a bit scared that she would be insulted.

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JenniferYellowHat1980 · 04/05/2016 09:33

I could go back.

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wednesdaysocks · 04/05/2016 09:37

Go to the charity shop and ask there? It may have been that she was donating loads of stuff and the that's what the bags were and the drink was purely innocent.

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ChinUpChestOut · 04/05/2016 09:38

Do it. You care enough to ask on here what to do. Yes, you might get an earful, but if she's back sitting on the bench then she might need a little help in her life today.

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JenniferYellowHat1980 · 04/05/2016 09:40

Just seen her at a bus stop. Going to bite the bullet and ask.

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JenniferYellowHat1980 · 04/05/2016 09:47

Done and she said she wasn't offended. Said they'd missed their bus but she had a phone and something about getting something fixed. The girl seemed very happy. I suspect all is not completely ok but she could've had help if she wanted it.

Feel pretty silly but also a bit more comfortable.

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TheExtraGuineaPig · 04/05/2016 09:56

Well done you for going back. I think you handled it really well and it's great to know there are people like you looking out for someone who could have been in trouble. X

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ChinUpChestOut · 04/05/2016 10:00

Lots of Flowers for you today. You did a good thing. Maybe her knowing that a complete stranger cared enough to ask after her will give her the little bit of strength she needs to keep going. Or just to feel good, and not alone.

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ihatethecold · 04/05/2016 10:04

You absolutely did the right thing.
Lots of people (friends) turned a blind eye years ago when I was in a desperate situation.
If a stranger had offered me help I would've been very grateful.

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MrsEricBana · 04/05/2016 10:06

Very kind indeed. Hope she is ok.

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MrsEricBana · 04/05/2016 10:08

Someone offered to help me get home once when I was in a sad situation (with baby at the hospital) and although I was fine I was so touched and have never forgotten that person's kindness.

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RainyMornings · 04/05/2016 10:12

You were super brave to go back, many people would be too worried about being shouted at. It may be nothing so no harm done, or you may have shown her that you've seen her, if you know what I mean. Well done Smile

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JenniferYellowHat1980 · 04/05/2016 10:21

Just a bit Blush that in my own discomfort at the whole situation I didn't think to offer them a lift. Ah well, at least they won't miss the bus this time!

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araiba · 04/05/2016 11:29

you called social services and police because someone missed their bus? wtf

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ihatethecold · 04/05/2016 12:03

She didn't call the police!

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