So my oh has lied about where he has been in the past - I was bleeding during a previous pregnancy and he went on a stag do to 'hull' so he would be able to get a taxi back if I needed him which turned out to be a booze cruise and he wasn't there to support me when I ended up miscarryibg - couldn't even get hold of him on the phone. I know him being there wouldn't have changed what happened but he broke my trust when he lied about the location and continued his lie until I found the boarding passes in his bag when I was going to do the washing.
So he is self employed and was working on Saturday. I was supposed to be going out Saturday night for he first time since having 7 week old lb. my mum was supposed to watch him but oh said he wasn't going out so I took lb to see my mum during the day instead. Tried to call him at 4 when I got home ( he usually works until 2 on Saturday) to ask where he was but he rejected my call and texted saying he was driving. Texted him back asking what time he would be home so I could get ready and he said he was out at a job and he didn't know because we were child free so he will be home when he is home he might go out drinking. we had a bit of a tiff because I had cancelled my mum because he said he didn't want to come out that morning and he then ended up saying he wanted to go out just not with me - which did upset me but wasnt a problem I could've gone out with my friends. I went upstairs to have a shower and he had already been home, had a shower and it stank of aftershave, he had trimmed his stubble and there was his 'going out clothes' on the bed that he must have tried on and decided to wear something else. Work clothes on the floor. It was obvious to me that he must have been lying about being at work because why would he go out in a dirty work van in his nice clothes?! I texted him asking where he really was, he persisted to say at work and I said If you're really at work send me a snap chat of you driving! I know a bit psycho! He said no problem but then continued to argue and never sent the snapchat and said he shouldn't have to prove to me where he is. The argument escalated and apparently I 'pushed him' to go for a drink and I said I would be staying at my mums with LO because I was sick of his lying. I'm 99% certain he was already out at the pub and had forgotten he was supposed to be in looking after LO or was just being plain selfish and didn't care about me having a break.Why would he get all dolled up to go out to work? If he was telling the truth why couldn't he send the video? Am I being paranoid or is this suspicious? He never wears aftershave unless he is off out and he was wearing his new trainers. He usually answers his phone driving or not and the speed he was texting back wasn't like he was preoccupied or busy.
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Paranoid or suspicious? Long post! Opinions needed!!
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Jenjen15951 · 02/05/2016 16:17
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lazyarse123 ·
02/05/2016 16:34
He's a selfish liar. The miscarriage thing on it's own is bad enough 
for you, i hope you are ok. I went through a miscarriage years ago and my husband ended up having an affair for 8 years. Apparently he didn't get the support he needed (tough shit). We did work through it and are ok now. I would really press your husband and ask him what the hell he thinks he's playing at. Good Luck.
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02/05/2016 19:16
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