Aibu to have grassed ds up to school

(68 Posts)
Catvsworld Tue 26-Apr-16 09:45:53

So ds is in year 11 and should have nose to the grind stone so to speak

And the last couple of weeks I have noticed on a Monday and Tuesday's he has been on Facebook

I would have thought the school had it blocked I keep his phone during the week so thought he may have been on his friends phone so when he came home asked him how come he was on FB during school hours he said he used the it computer hmm

I had told him tbh he was supposed to be doing is bloody work not networking ffs he claimed he had finished his work so I said well you should be revising told him I would be contacting the school he just shrugged his shoulders so I bloody did

I did say that I do expect the school to have a better handle on this but do expect my son to get on with his work and not be jeffing about on Facebook I have told them to make sure they punish him in line with the school rules on this he's gonna hate me but I want him to do his work and get good results and FB will not help him achieve this

usual Tue 26-Apr-16 09:49:32

He's 16 and you keep his phone? I think you will find yourself blocked from his FB.

TheSecondOfHerName Tue 26-Apr-16 09:50:27

Is this in free periods or lessons? If he's posting stuff on social media during lessons, then I think you did the right thing to mention it to the school.

I have a son in Y11 and it is a struggle to keep them focused. The exams feel like such a long haul.

Newtobecomingamum Tue 26-Apr-16 09:53:05

"I have told the school to punish him" that's a bit harsh. The school should have adequate systems in place so this didn't happen and I'm sure he probably wasn't the only one. I would have told him it was unacceptable and informed the school so that they could fix the issues so that FB could not be accessed and left it at that. Do you really want to see your son "punished"? Surely if he had then done it again after your first warning etc that may have justified a punishment but I personally think that would have been a better way to have handled it. If the school does now punish him and not the other children/friends who were prob doing it do, he will now be singled out and punished. That's not fair.

MrsJayy Tue 26-Apr-16 09:56:16

You keep your 16yrold phone during the week and then want the school to tell him he is a naughty boy WOW

usual Tue 26-Apr-16 09:56:32

A general I have noticed some students on FB during school hours would have been better than getting your DS punished.

CurlyBlueberry Tue 26-Apr-16 09:57:02

I think YABU. What, he can't have any breaks at all and use them to quickly pop onto Facebook, have a bit of a breather? I wouldn't work all day long without any breaks, that's unreasonable.

NickiFury Tue 26-Apr-16 09:57:30

Ridiculous. YABU.

MrsJayy Tue 26-Apr-16 09:59:26

What usual said although i wouldnt be surprised if your son had another phone or using his pals school internet is usually pretty well locked down

usual Tue 26-Apr-16 10:01:19

I expect OP will be blocked from her DSs FB or he will set up another account OP has no idea about.

bloodyteenagers Tue 26-Apr-16 10:02:21

Why would the school have blocked Facebook?
They teach social media lessons in school. These lessons cannot be taught in paper. They teach about settings, being aware of what is posted and General esafety material including child exploitation.

He is allowed down time. Even revision regular breaks are encouraged.

Pixie89 Tue 26-Apr-16 10:03:31

Surely these actions will just cause him to rebel.

At 16 you can get married, get your own home, join the army,& have sex all legally.

You are still a child granted but far more grown up than I think you give him credit for. Yabu.

MrsJayy Tue 26-Apr-16 10:05:08

Do you really keep his phone ?

ilovesooty Tue 26-Apr-16 10:05:23

He'll find some way of getting round your heavy handed approach and if he does good for him.

And as for "I have told the school to punish him" I hope they tell you where you can shove your orders.

usual Tue 26-Apr-16 10:06:24

I bet he's got another phone. grin

WorraLiberty Tue 26-Apr-16 10:06:27

Christ, even during the days of slavery the slaves were allowed a break now and then.

Carry on like this and you may find your child is one of the few who either drops out completely, or ends up having a break down.

Ease up. As long as he's studying to the best of his ability, he's allowed a break.

t4gnut Tue 26-Apr-16 10:07:18

Most schools with any sense block facebook, youtube etc on school machines. Can't quite fathom why this one hasn't.....

SaucyJack Tue 26-Apr-16 10:07:31

Is there some sort of backstory to this?

Pixie89 Tue 26-Apr-16 10:07:59

Also if you single him out and words gets out. Not only will he be singled out and seen as a bit of a mummys boy. Also when the internet gets blocked for all the other kids and they know who is to blame. I would worry that it is basicly just opening the flood gates to bullying. Don't get me wrong I do not agree with any of these things but you know how school children are espesially teenagers.

MrsJayy Tue 26-Apr-16 10:08:05

I thought i was quite strict when Dds were at school but this really is something else.

Lweji Tue 26-Apr-16 10:09:40

Do you want him to get god results to please you or not get punished, or so that he has a good life with a job he likes?

My 11 year old is given more independence and responsibility than yours.

hellsbellsmelons Tue 26-Apr-16 10:10:58

Wow!
You need to get a grip.

MrsJayy Tue 26-Apr-16 10:11:29

He so has another phone grin

Lweji Tue 26-Apr-16 10:11:47

Erm...
Good results, not god!

LogicalThinking Tue 26-Apr-16 10:12:40

You don't sound like a very supportive or understanding parent.
Does having his nose to the grindstone means he is never allowed a break?
Children work hard when they feel good - you're not helping.

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