DM is having a special birthday and I have already mentioned to DF that I plan to visit to celebrate with her. They live in another county. However, today I received an email from DM that she has booked flights to come to see me on those dates. She had been planning to come later during summer and mentioned completely different dates previously, one of which suited, one didn't. Now she has gone and booked without ever mentioning she might come on this date. I had planned a week visiting home them and friends. So now this is messed up and we have lots of other things planned so another week over the summer hols is tricky.
If i am planning to visit i simply call and ask, is that ok date wise. Why can i not expect the same courtesy?
I feel i cannot win as if i am cross with her for booking, she will just take the huff and be hurt as it will be her birthday. So i just have to suck it up. Any ideas how i can get my point across without losing the plot? There is a long history of them not respecting my wishes or viewpoint.
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To expect DM to check with me before booking flights to visit?
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Waitrosesaysimessential · 15/04/2016 17:39
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