Travelling abroad at 34/35weeks?

(30 Posts)
Talcott2007 Fri 15-Apr-16 11:43:46

So my DP has jut come up with the idea to drive to France on the early May B/H weekend to visit family we would be looking at a 5hr drive each way. I'm not sure I want to go. I will be 34/35 weeks at the time my consultant has already said that I will in all probability be induced at 38 weeks as I have some underlying medical issues which could put me and baby at increased risk if I go 'over'

I guess I'm just worried about the possibility of going into labor early and having to deliver away from the the medical team who know all about my condition. (although there is no reason to suspect this would happen, but then again - I arrived at 35+2 myself) My French is also far from fluent so if something did go wrong I wouldn't be able to communicate well without DP translating.

DP thinks I'm just over thinking everything and that the chances of me going into labor aren't even worth worrying about and even if they were it's not like there would be no access to medical care so everything would be fine regardless etc - To be clear DP isn't insisting we go or anything and if i say I don't want to go he will be fine with it but deep down I know he would really like to see his family again before baby arrives. AIBU and OTT about the whole thing?

What would other people do?

AliceInUnderpants Fri 15-Apr-16 11:49:53

No way. Could he go himself to visit his family?

specialsubject Fri 15-Apr-16 11:52:50

job no 1 - see if you can get travel insurance, giving all these details. That should help the decision.

londonrach Fri 15-Apr-16 11:53:06

Im 25 weeks now and thinking should i should i not go at 26/27 weeks on holiday. Yanbu about wanting to travel at 34/35 weeks. Im sure there are mntters who have travelling at 38 weeks but for me personally i question after 30 weeks. Can you suggest a uk break instead or better still enjoy a holiday when your new born is here. Yanbu.

Figgygal Fri 15-Apr-16 11:56:10

Absolutely no chance if he going what is he thinking?? shock

DoodleCat Fri 15-Apr-16 11:56:15

My son arrived at 34 weeks with no prior warning. He then had to stay in hospital for 2 weeks, I was so glad it was a hospital near home. So, you'd probably be fine but maybe explain to DH that if baby did arrive it could involve staying with baby in hospital for weeks after..

NapQueen Fri 15-Apr-16 11:56:38

Aside from the "what if" of early labour, a long drive, the stress of being abroad so pregnant and the usual "fuck me Im sick of being pregnant I cant sleep or get comfy" are all viable reasons to not go.

He can go alone or wait til the baby is 3months and go then.

CMOTDibbler Fri 15-Apr-16 11:56:39

If nothing else, then consider what its going to be like sitting in a car for hours and hours at 35 weeks. You could be needing a wee very frequently, not comfortable, and theres a higher risk of dvt.

I gave birth at 35+0 with no warning at all, and ds spent a week in SCBU. I wouldn't want to do that in another country,.

Monstertrucker Fri 15-Apr-16 11:57:55

I struggled with a 5min car journey at that stage due to back pain - no way would I even have contemplated it!

Birdsgottafly Fri 15-Apr-16 12:01:27

Would it be a five hour drive, with bank holiday traffic, possible delays because of accidents and you needing the toilet/to stretch your legs.

That alone doesn't sound like fun.

He should go with whatever you want to do, your the one whose pregnant, that doesn't mean he can't go alone.

If normally ask how likely an early labour would be, but there's been three, in my circle, recently.

So it depends on if your bothered about where you give birth and possibly being stuck, if the baby/you aren't well.

The risk of an accident would have put me off at 35 weeks, though. A high speed accident, surround by wagons, is very different to a city centre accident.

Heirhelp Fri 15-Apr-16 12:02:21

I would not do it. If you are against it and DH can't understand why aak your midwife or conaultant for their advice. I am sure they will no.

Lasaraleen Fri 15-Apr-16 12:03:33

My first dc was born at 34 weeks and was in hospital for 7 weeks. Absolutely no way would I go. Quite apart from the possibility of being really uncomfortable on the drive.

TheGreaterGood Fri 15-Apr-16 12:05:14

Interested to see how this goes - I'm umming and ahhing about a UK work trip for 2 nights when I'm 35 weeks. Will be 4 hours drive from home and an hour from the nearest hospital.

I'm in 2 minds... but I think adding cross-channel journey and a language barrier would make my mind up for me to be honest!

TaraCarter Fri 15-Apr-16 12:05:15

It's a bloody stupid idea.

Ladycrazycat Fri 15-Apr-16 12:07:30

Can you make it another, earlier weekend? I know that it might not be ideal with AL but would that be a possibility? Or could his family come to you? Maybe you could book somewhere for you all to stay not a million miles from home but at least in the same country.

NapQueen Fri 15-Apr-16 12:09:00

The UK break wouldnt worry me - still access to NHS hospitals and no repatriation costs / hospital costs / language worries.

TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams Fri 15-Apr-16 12:14:25

Can they come and visit you instead?

TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams Fri 15-Apr-16 12:16:42

Though possibly that's even worse grin Nice hotel - Half way ?

Bit too late for me. 30 weeks or so I'd be fine with that but while in all likelihood it would be fine if you are under consultant care then I'd be quite cautious.

Send him off and have a lovely weekend just pottering around

BarbaraofSeville Fri 15-Apr-16 12:28:39

job no 1 - see if you can get travel insurance, giving all these details. That should help the decision

^^This. You might not even be able to get travel insurance, or it might be ridiculously expensive. So it might be a no-no anyway, without having to think about whether it will be too tiring/uncomfortable etc.

Talcott2007 Fri 15-Apr-16 12:41:19

Thanks everyone! At least I'm not being OTT for being reluctant to go then! (I'm well known for my OTT-ness so sometimes it's hard to tell any more especially with all the hormones at the moment!)

We did spend Christmas with the ILS and DP has been over on his own for a week in Feb so it's not like it's been forever since he's seen them and is quite capable and happy to visit on his own in general. I've just suggested that he goes on his own if he really wants to see them - to which he's replied "but then what if you DO go into labor early and I miss it - you can't do it without me!!" - Who's OTT now! haha!

Mistigri Fri 15-Apr-16 12:52:51

Check your travel insurance for pregnancy related exclusions.

Medical care will be covered if the worst should happen, but associated costs won't be - this includes repatriation costs for you and a small baby, hotel and food costs for your DH, and your "hotel" costs in a French hospital (which are normally partly covered by patients in France and are insured separately).

My DS was involved in a serious traffic accident about 3 years ago in northern France. The cost of repatriating him to our home (also in France) was about £3k. If your baby were to arrive prematurely and require medical transport home you'd be looking at a bill of several thousand at least.

NicknameUsed Fri 15-Apr-16 13:01:31

What everyone else has said. Also, how would you get a new, premature baby back to the UK without its own passport?

RubbleBubble00 Fri 15-Apr-16 13:05:15

Simply no. From about 32 wks I stayed within hour of hospital and home. You never know.

Mistigri Fri 15-Apr-16 13:06:19

If the OP's partner is French, getting a French passport for their baby would be easy (cheaper/ quicker than in the UK). Less of an issue than the medical and financial complications of repatriating a premature baby, anyway.

99percentchocolate Fri 15-Apr-16 13:16:36

I'm 35 weeks now and I honestly couldn't think of anything worse. There is a lovely event on about 45 minutes from me next week which I would love to go to but the thought of being that far from my hospital is bringing me out in a sweat!

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