I'm at my wits end with work. I work full time in middle mgmt and the atmosphere is pretty blokey mid-twenties alpha male and as a nearly 40 yr old woman I'm bloody fed up with it. Usually I can just roll my eyes, gives as good as I get and shrug stuff off and get on with my jobs but now I'm 4 mths pregnant, I barely have the energy or patience anymore to deal with it and it's got to the point when I dread going in. I'm lying awake at night worrying about the coming day and rehashing and analysing conversations and situations when I should be resting.
I feel that I'm constantly on the defensive and on the look out for snidey passive aggressive situations created by male colleagues who seem to be keen to point out anything which they don't like but kick up a huge stink if it's pointed out that they could have done something differently or did something wrong.
What's more, the person I line manage handed her notice in a few weeks ago and is due to leave at the end of the month and no steps whatsoever have been taken to replace her. It's looking as if her workload will then fall to me and that's something I could easily do without.
I've also been told to take time for antenatal appts etc as holiday otherwise it gets unpaid. I've told them that it's my right to have paid time out to attend appts in addition to holidays but this has fallen on deaf ears.
I really can't face it anymore. I've tried speaking to my line mgr and HR (marginally more reasonable than the others) but this hasn't really helped and nothing seems to have improved.
I'm sure that hormones and a change of priorities in my life do contribute to my interpretation of the situation but really, each day I feel less and less like I want to be part of the team.
If I left I could find stop gap work until I would be due to start mat leave but then I lose the employment benefits and paid mat leave if I were to stay. Also, I'm annoyed that I should feel driven from my work because of a dick swinging culture which struggled to deal with older women in the workplace.
Your advice would be much appreciated to help me put all this into perspective.
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MrsBlimey · 16/03/2016 09:06
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