By way of background I was single for a very long time (nearly 6 years). I always said when/ if I met someone i wouldn't give up all my friends, never go out etc. On average I used to go out once a couple of times a month, mixture of fri night drinks after work and sat nights with non work friends.
So, ff a couple of years and I'm with someone and it's all good. Meanwhile one of my friends has, since last year, been single ( after the breakup of a long marriage). Her exh has their DC eow - the same weekend as my bf has his DC (we only see each other on the Sun of his contact weekends as they like spending time with him on his own, and complain that when with their mum, her bf is often around - but anyway that's a whole other thread). So the weekends when she's child free she wants to go out.
The rest of our group of mutual friends are all married, and have only ever been up for going out once every few months. She has other friends but pretty much all of them are married and again, not up for going out all the time.
Part of the issue is where she wants to go. The last few times we've been to a really noisy overcrowded pub, loud music, dancing etc (last night I had my drink spilt over me 3 times, and lost count of the number of times people barged into me/ elbowed me. It just wasn't fun at all. I do feel bad if she can't go out without me, i do understand what it's like being stuck at home but honestly the thought of spending every other sat night in a place like that fills me with horror...so AIBU?
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VelvetSpoon · 13/03/2016 14:12
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