Parking at nursery giving me the rage

(19 Posts)
Booboostwo Thu 05-Nov-15 19:40:11

I am not BU for sure but I need to vent here before I take it out on this other parent.

DS's nursery has very good on street parking. Eight times out of ten I can park outside the building, the rest I have to park in front of adjoining houses and walk a tiny distance to the main gates. Just outside the main gates there is a zebra crossing with speed bumps on either side, all introduced this year clearly to make it safer for pedestrians to cross and slow cars down in the unlikely event a child runs out on the road.

I drop off and pick up the same time as another parent who always parks on the zebra crossing. There are plenty of other spaces everywhere, even right next to the crossing but she parks on the crossing. She does not have a disabled badge or evident disability and neither do her kids. She does leave an older child in the car (7-8yo?) but he can't be seen from the nursery as soon as you go through the gates so he is no more visible in this parking spot than he would be in the one next to it.

She also leaves the nursery gates open despite the huge sign reminding people not to.

I want to throttle her. She annoys me at every drop off and pick up. Pedestrians have to walk round her car to use the zebra crossing and if a child run out into the road her car would obscure him for that little bit longer which might make all the difference in case of an accident.

P.s. I live in France where attitudes to traffic laws are more relaxed but this takes the biscuit even for here. I have considered complaining about her to the nursery but I know they will look at me like I am an alien.

Lovemytent Thu 05-Nov-15 19:52:18

Have you actually asked her about why she does it ? I know I would have done. Nothing to lose surely ?

Booboostwo Fri 06-Nov-15 07:07:34

I hadn't considered that but I am not very confrontational in RL and it's safer to rant online!

whois Fri 06-Nov-15 08:15:35

You could squeeze past her car with your buggy whilst you're trying to use the crossing and leave a dirty great big scratch on her car, might help you feel better.

00100001 Fri 06-Nov-15 08:18:56

Just ask her not to park there - it;s clearly not a parking space!

if you're too scared, get the Nursery Staff to confront her.

paulapompom Fri 06-Nov-15 08:36:19

Oooh I'm angry with her too <not helpful>.

Perhaps mention to nursery that you have seen the gate open and could they remind people to close it.

With regard to the parking, that is ridiculous, do you have parking wardens? I would be putting in a complaint.

Totally hear what pps say about talking to her, that is the logical first step, but she sounds like she won't care. She can see the 'shut the gate ' signs, she knows she is blocking a zebra crossing, she's not fussed.

HorseyCool Fri 06-Nov-15 08:42:23

Just mention this to the nursery staff, let them take this up with her,

BarbarianMum Fri 06-Nov-15 09:09:40

Take a photo of her car parked there and contact your local community police. I've done this re a parent who would regularly park on our zebra crossing. They sorted it.

pluck Fri 06-Nov-15 10:33:43

There was a blue-badge-space hog at my DC's pre-school. The staff said something, and it stopped. I'm sure yours will speak to your PITA. The nursery would get the blame for any escapees, so they are the ones who will be keenest to enforce this!

Get your local traffic wardens on to the antisocial parking, as the enforcement will have a keener bite than telling off by any nursery or private individual. As for the wardens, I'm sure they'd love the fine! Win-win. smile

bruffin Fri 06-Nov-15 10:34:50

There is something about nursery parents and parking, they seem to think laws dont apply to them. When my dc were little the nursery were always having to send out letters about being considerate about parking and the police were bought in.
Where i live now they have just converted an old building into a day nursery at the front of the estate. The entrance to the estate is a narrow road which has some temporary parking places. However it is not unusual to find a car parked in the middle of the road blocking it so we cant go into the estate.
There is not enough parking for the staff so they park in our road and often use the flats parking which is allocated and one lovely girl spends her lunch time emptying her cars rubbish and just leaves it in the road/parking space shock

WorraLiberty Fri 06-Nov-15 10:37:06

What did the nursery staff say when you told them?

It's really for them to deal with as it's a general child safety issue.

DoctorTwo Fri 06-Nov-15 10:45:02

I'm pretty sure it's against the Highway Code to park or otherwise obstruct a Zebra crossing.

kungfupannda Fri 06-Nov-15 11:00:59

There's always one person who thinks they are too busy and important to follow the rules.

DS1's old nursery has a small carpark with its entrance on the main road. There's space for 5 cars if those 5 cars are driven by people who can actually drive, and not by people who need to park diagonally across 3 spaces, or people who haven't figured out that reversing into the space means you can get out without causing carnage and finishing up trying to reverse across both lanes of a busy A road.

I'd say 90% of the parents managed this fine. There were a few who just didn't seem to be able to manoeuvre without getting in a massive mess. Then there was the one mum who had clearly decided that her needs outweighed those of everyone else, and it was therefore entirely acceptable to abandon her massive car wherever the fancy took her, even if that meant that she blocked everyone else into the carpark and caused a tailback on the main road in the process. No amount of begging by the nursery stopped it. I eventually lost it with her when she was about to make me late for work for about the tenth time. She seemed genuinely confused that I objected to this, but she did move her car by the time I'd finished with her grin

The really annoying thing was that there was a big carpark right next door, but she clearly didn't think she should have to walk the extra 10 feet. I started parking next door even if there was space in the nursery carpark. I couldn't be bothered with all the messing about.

The same parent is now the one who parks on the zigzag lines outside the school of course...

WMittens Fri 06-Nov-15 11:18:47

I'm pretty sure it's against the Highway Code to park or otherwise obstruct a Zebra crossing.

Never mind the HC, it's against the Road Traffic Act - if it's a proper zebra crossing (zigzag lines, Belisha beacons and whatnot) it's an endorsable offence, a PC30.

If it's just a piece of funny-coloured tarmac with speed bumps either side, it's not a zebra crossing.

Pseudo341 Fri 06-Nov-15 11:26:58

Grrrrr, nursery parking! You can't park on a zebra crossing even with a blue badge. I suspect an ambulance can but otherwise there's no excuse.

I'm having a nightmare at my nursery with other parents who just can't grasp the fact that a massive van won't turn in the same space as a modest family car and that they're below the height of my rear window so I can't see to easily reverse into the tiny space they've kindly left me.

Sorry to go off on a tangent, I'll take any excuse to have a good whinge about nursery parking.

I'd talk to the nursery staff and make it clear you expect them to sort it out rather than approach the woman myself.

Louiseweez Fri 06-Nov-15 11:50:22

I live in France too, you could complain at the mairie (town hall) that you can't use the crossing with your child because people park on it. They can send extra traffic patrols at this time so they will see her. The mairie is in charge of the traffic officials who are to be found outside schools (I don't think they're actually police, but have dark uniforms!).
People are not allowed to park on zebra crossings - even if they did start doing it before it was a crossing - and even if they are disabled (which we don't know) ;-)
I would be totally outraged too. As it is just this one woman you should do something. If it was EVERY other parent at the school then you'd be onto a loser as it must be be a cultural difference (that's my case, every other parent parks wrongly at my dc's school and they ALL leave the gate open). A girl was snatched only 2 months ago in my area. Shut the gates fgs!
Is your partner/husband French? Send him to complain at the mairie, in case you feel they won't take you seriously.

hiccupgirl Fri 06-Nov-15 12:25:53

I had similar when my DS was at nursery. Some people just don't see that rules apply to them.

One parent always left the gate wide open no matter how many times staff spoke to her. I follow her through it numerous times and then made a show of shutting it to try and give her the hint but nope. She also liked to complain loudly if she had to wait behind you to get her child while you were collecting yours, and also drive stupidly fast across the car park, expecting everyone to move out of her way. I came to the conclusion that she just thought her life was vastly more important and busy than anyone else's.

ShamelessBreadAddict Fri 06-Nov-15 12:35:18

Oooooooh bruffin I'd be reporting the litter thing to the nursery. Some people are just foul.

bruffin Fri 06-Nov-15 12:55:14

She left a lid of a tub of taramousalata by her car, it ended up under her windscreen wiper grin she has improved ! If she starts again will report her.

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