Was request bu?

[Leafitout]

To have asked his father for some money for a few things that he needed and to be ignored? Back story is that the court ruled that father is only to have indirect monthly email correspondence. Long history of domestic violence.
Father does not pay a penny and goes out of his way to avoid csa payments. Thinks he is above taking responsibility for our child.
Ds asked me if his dad could help out with a few bits as he never gets anything for him. And why doesn't he help. Ds said I know he has money mum, he's not skint so I'm going to ask him. Rather than me saying he won't help, I said if you want to you can. Ds asked him over email very politely if he could have some money please for a few bits?
Father ignores his request and instead responds with he's not been up to much just got back from holiday abroad and it was hot!!! Ds was upset and said that his father doesn't care about him. I said I'm sure he does and that he loves him. It makes me sad and angry on ds behalf and took a lot to not slag his father off to him. It was a polite request from our ds.

[Londonista123]

Not U at all! Your poor DS... it sounds like his dad is trying to exert control by withholding £. Good on you for not slagging off his dad - let him decide for himself how he feels about his father.

[wasonthelist]

Not U. Dads like this make me ashamed to be a Dad. My dd is so wanted and loved - I don't get Dads who don't seem to even want their kids.

[WhyCantIuseTheNameIWant]

Are you me?
Is your ds my ds?

Unfortunately, I guess we are not the only ones.

He tried, he saw for himself. Not much else you can do.