Pissed off but not sure if IABU.
Tomorrow is my birthday and DP has to work all day so we agreed to do something today for it.
He has arranged nothing at all and when I asked this morning what he fancied doing he said "whatever you want as long as it is free as we are broke (we are)". He then announced that he needed to go to the supermarket, get diesel, etc. Once all of that is done, including lunches, talking to dads for Father's Day, getting ready etc. everything will be closed or just about to close for the day.
When it became apparent that nothing had been arranged or was going to be, I decided to arrange for us to go out for dinner tomorrow night and pay with my clubcard vouchers. Arranged a babysitter, Etc. He just grunted at me and was very unenthusiastic about it.
I know I shouldn't care as a birthday is just a day, but his birthday was a couple of weeks ago and I arranged loads for us to do all day and gave him loads of options (including stay at home) so that he could choose what he wanted. He was really grateful and said how lovely it was that I'd put so much thought into it.
Aibu to just want a little more thought? I'm not asking for an action packed day, just something more than this. I am currently cleaning the house whilst they are at the supermarket. Even watching a film together would be nice. Instead I'm on my own for at least the next hour.
AIBU?
To expect a little more?
98percentchocolate · 21/06/2015 11:43
YANBU. He should have made an effort - even something small. He could have suggested going for coffee & cake somewhere. I'm in a similar position every birthday. I make a huge effort for his, but he seems to barely notice mine. Sometimes it's down to the way their own family celebrated (or didn't celebrate) birthdays. It's very disappointing & hurtful though.
I don't know what to suggest - let him know you feel a bit disappointed & you're hoping for an improvement next year!
Happy birthday by the way! Hope it improves!
To my mind, YABU as a birthday is just a day.
And I'd bloody love to be alone in the house for an hour - bliss!
I don't understand birthday fuss, to be honest - I have friends and in-laws who have a 'birthday week'! 
I don't understand birthday fuss, to be honest - I have friends and in-laws who have a 'birthday week'!
Yes, I know people like this, too.
My DH did something similar on my 30th birthday last year. he had booked the day off then told me he had to work anyway (it was a colleagues mums birthday aswell and he swapped shift with her) it was a late shift with him finishing at 9.30pm. I thought he had just said he was working to throw me off and was going to surprise me on the day. no. he went to work. We did nothing for my birthday at all. Not even in the day before he went. I spent my 30th in bed alone watching shit tv, crying. 
(I was about 4 weeks pregnant aswell which I didn't realise at the time so might explain my tears etc but I was really upset)
so no, YANBU.
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