We currently live with my parents whilst we're trying to sell our house and get a new one closer to DH's job. Our house is in Scotland and his job is in London so not exactly commutable.
The ILs live in Scotland and we haven't seen them since we moved here a year ago (though, we Skype with them every week or two to let them see DSs). DH received a text from MIL this morning saying her and FIL are heading down this way and will be with DH's aunt tomorrow (who lives maybe a 45 minute drive from here) and staying the week.
This is the warning we get. It will be the first chance they've had to see DH in a year but because they have sprung it on him he'll be working. His work are pretty reasonable and if he'd had even a week or two's warning he could have gotten at least some, if not the whole week, off. Instead, he'll be leaving at 6.30am and getting home at 7.30pm every day! If they see him at all it'll be for a few hours only.
Now, I have an appointment to speak to the SENCO at the preschool DS1 is starting at after summer tomorrow morning (he is currently going through a diagnosis for ASD) and he has a hospital appointment in the afternoon so we won't be about tomorrow.
On Tuesday, I normally take the boys to a toddler group. DS2 is only a year so he's not going to care if we miss it but DS1 asks about it all fucking week until we go. He's just starting to grasp the concept of certain things happening on certain days and with his ASD a disruption to that is a bit of an issue but I'm sure the ILs will want to see the boys Tuesday morning if they can't see them Monday. But, there's no telling what time they'll turn up because they'll no doubt say 10am or something but that might mean anything from 9.30 to 1pm. Us going to them isn't an option because I don't drive and even if I did DS1 gets horrendously car sick during any journey longer than 20 minutes.
I get on with them, especially MIL. She's lovely. She's easy to chat to, very eager to please, tries very hard not to undermine my parenting even when I can tell she'd do things differently. Compared to all the bat-shit-crazy MILs I read about on here, she's a dream. But any visit from them is always marred by the fact they're so inconsiderate when it comes to giving any sort of notice/making plans. They both work so they'll have had to organise time off. A different aunt is looking after their dog, as well. So, they must have planned all that ahead of time!! But they didn't think to check with us to see if DH could get time off work, to see if it would inconvenience my parents at all (what if they had people staying this week??), or to make sure I hadn't planned to do things with the boys so wouldn't be free.
I can't rant to DH because he's absolutely furious, himself, so it would only makes things worse. AIBU to be pissed off and in a bad mood about this but then to smile sweetly when I see them because why bother creating an argument when they'll never change and it's once a year?
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LadyNym · 14/06/2015 12:54
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