Posted my story yest in chat but I need some definitive opinions about whether I'm in the wrong here.
Oh and his sis fell out a few months ago.
Reasons for this - he'd always had a good relationship with his sis dc's but since we had a baby she had not made any real effort to spend time with baby a couple of visits and that was it. Oh had always visited her children and organised things so he felt hurt that she didn't seem interested.
They had an argument before Xmas.
She had made lots of snide remarks about never seeing him anymore etc he told her he was disapointed she hadn't been over to see our baby more. She went ballistic- telling him she didn't have the money to travel over to ours (10 mins away) and that we should be going to hers. She was very aggressive so he told her he would speak to her like that she needed to calm down and apologise. She then posted things about us on social media and deleted us.
On Xmas day mil wouldn't come to see our child as she didn't want to upset her daughter who she was spending the day with- oh didn't want to go over to hers to visit as his sis was still being nasty over texts and aggressive etc so we didn't want an argument. We didn't want mil to feel awkward so we didn't say anything but were upset that she wouldn't see her youngest hrandchild as would be upset sil.
Since then nothing's been said between him and his sister.
His mum has contacted him to basically lay the fault entirely at his door and that she's so disapointed in him.
In all this he's been verbally attacked on texts, social media by his sister he's not said a word.
His mother can't see that he's not the one in the wrong. Her daughter and her are very close- spend a lot of time going away together etc so I understand that she doesn't want to upset her dd but I just feel so sorry for my oh.
Today she's contacted oh and said although she blames us and is very let down by us - she doesn't want to talk about it anymore it's off limits.
Oh seems to accept this but I'm hurt- as far as I can see his sister has behaved badly for months enabled by mil and now we have to suck up a telling off and pretend like nothing happened. I don't feel ok with this-aibu?
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Wishful80smontage · 03/06/2015 16:36
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