to want to go for a walk on a wednesday evening?

[Niloufes]

On most Mondays and Thursdays I go to a club (rehearsals for a play I am in) straight from work of an evening, the other half stays in with the little one (2.5) and puts her to bed. On Tuesday, Wednesday and most Fridays I put the little one to bed and the other half goes to the gym (we call it that but its a spare room in our house with various equipment) whilst I put the little one to bed. The other half has an active social life with a group of friends on nights here and there but no regular hobbies other than the home gym. On the weekend it is family time so we mix and match how the day and evenings go. My other half hates gyms at sports centres but really loves time in our little gym at home. I am not good at going to gyms to get fit, I prefer going for walks and to get my fitness stuff from that. We used to walk a lot and since the little one came along we have cut right back as she can only really stand a few miles in the carrier and at the moment a long walk isnt always fun for her. As we live fairly rurally (in a small town in Somerset) I spend a lot of time on the train to and from work looking at the beautiful countryside and longing to get out in it for a proper walk in the week. After dinner on Wednesdays (probably finish eating by 7.30 ish) I would like to start going for a walk, possibly turning into a run as my fitness gets up, somewhere for an hour or so, somewhere different each time to keep it interesting but with a length of about 5 miles. Am I being unreasonable for wanting to do this every week? I dont have a dog and that would be a perfect excuse to go for a walk to get my fix so to speak. I have asked mates and they are really not up for it, they just want to go to the pub in the evening. I dont really want to go to the pub anymore without at least doing an activity first and its not the same as it once was anyway when the other half was there. So I have no one to go for this walk with. If its not an unreasonable thing to do, is it weird me going on my own? I dont think this is an unreasonable thing to do but as Id be out 3 nights every week it could be. I have not put this to the other half yet just seeing what people think and by the way I am a man. Would be grateful for all comments etc.

[Littlef00t]

It's a lovely idea. I used to go for walks before work and lunch hour as there was beautiful countryside by me.

Assuming you help put LO to bed before you go walking there's no real extra bother for dp, just you not being around, but he's gyming presumably.

Unless you hardly ever see each other I can't see an issue.

[BaronessBomburst]

Sounds fine to me.

[TheSnowFairy]

It doesn't sound like you're making much time for each other, could you get up earlier and go before work? Or walk to the train station?

[MaxPepsi]

Are there any dogs you can borrow for an evening?

Can you and DP go for a walk with your DD/DS in a pushchair? Calling in at the pub on the way there/home? No need to have alcohol if you don't fancy one.

I love walking, DH and I have a dog tho and plan our walks around the pubs! on a weekend especially so we get the best of both worlds.

[Artandco]

Can't you put 2 year old in pram in pjs and blanket and she can sleep if tired after dinner and you and dh can both walk together?

[FinnJuhl]

I encourage my Dh to do this, as he doesn't enjoy the gym. It's only going to take up an hour, and you're still doing the bedtime, so YANBU. Enjoy the lovely summer evenings down in beautiful Somerset.

The only problem I can see is if the children get up out of bed and interrupt your partner while she's exercising, and you're out on your walk. That wouldn't be fair, if that's already established as 'her' time.