My partner (though technically he is my ex) and I haven't been getting on for a while. Amongst many other things I think he has a drink problem (functioning alcoholic rather than constantly drunk, he can't drink all the time because of work but when he can he can't/won't stop until he pretty much passes out, I've told him he's not allowed to drink in front of my children which he no longer does but moans it's unfair and I'm making a bigger deal out of it than I need to), when he is drunk he's pretty vile (his reply is it's a joke), he's unreliable and irresponsible.
I've told him we are finished and I want him to move out. It's my home, my name is on the mortgage/deeds.
He just won't accept it and leave. He says if I gave us a proper chance we would be happy, to give us a proper chance he wants me to give up work so I spend more time with him, personally my suspicion is he wants me to give up work so I'm financially dependent on him. He says I'm not capable of letting anyone love me and I should just relax and let him. He will just not accept it's over. We don't share a bedroom, apart from telling him to leave I don't speak to him, he's acting like this is just an argument, but I couldn't be clearer it isn't and I mean it.
I just don't want him near me, certainly not in my house where my children are, I know I made a terrible mistake getting together with him and letting it get this far. My only excuse is that shortly after we met I was terribly ill and he looked after me and essentially moved in when I was too unwell to argue with him or my family who were all for it (basically because it meant they didn't have to look after me) and I didn;t realise quite how bad he was.
But I just need him to go now and he won't. What do I do? I don;t think the police would help as he's not threatened me, apart from once to tell me that now he had moved his stuff in he essentially had squatters rights and I couldn't get him out
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VivienScott · 03/05/2015 16:06
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