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AIBU?

Making photos on social media private

18 replies

Discopanda · 05/03/2015 00:06

A couple of years ago I made all my photos on Facebook private because I don't want any randomer seeing pictures of me and my family, but AIBU to think that if friends and relatives are putting up photos of your child as well they should at least make their photos private? Surely it's basic internet safety?

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countessmarkyabitch · 05/03/2015 00:14

What specific risk is there to your childs safety to have their picture on FB?
Just wondering.

Discopanda · 05/03/2015 00:26

The obvious risk of paedophiles jumping through cyberspace via computer screens and getting into my house.
I just think it's weird putting up pictures of other people's children when you have no idea who could be looking at them.

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babybottombutter · 05/03/2015 00:43

www.telegraph.co.uk/men/relationships/fatherhood/11345624/Why-the-idea-of-paedophiles-stealing-pictures-of-my-kids-doesnt-bother-me.html

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Why the idea of paedophiles stealing pictures of my kids doesn't bother me"

APocketfulOfSpondulix · 05/03/2015 00:46

I'm with you, OP. And it's not because of pedophiles.

www.slate.com/articles/technology/data_mine_1/2013/09/facebook_privacy_and_kids_don_t_post_photos_of_your_kids_online.html

EmptySoulKindHeart · 05/03/2015 00:48

dunno why anyone will have their fb open when i had mine it was private evefythi

MrsTerryPratchett · 05/03/2015 00:53

Firstly, just because some bloke at the Torygraph doesn't care, doesn't mean I can't care. Secondly, there are lots of reasons I don't want pictures of my child on the internet. I don't have to explain them to everyone and they should just respect that I don't want identifiable pictures of my child on social media. Which my friends and family respect, because they aren't arseholes.

If I say, "please don't put pictures online of DD" it could be because I want her to be able to make her own online 'identity'. Or, it could be, in my line of work, I have a stalker that has threatened my family (as happened to a couple of colleagues). I don't have to explain that to you, you should just respect my reasons.

countessmarkyabitch · 05/03/2015 00:59

Well, you can ask FB to take down any photos of your child (under 13) if you don't want them on there.
And you can ask people in your life not to post photos online. I think most people would do as you ask.
But you can't really enforce it if people won't comply, because you don't have any ownership rights over your childs image (neither do they), so you have to go on goodwill only.

That slate article has some interesting points but comes across as paranoid.

babybottombutter · 05/03/2015 00:59

What a bonkers article. 'But there were also photos of her in a bathtub and an awkward moment posing in her mother’s lacy pink bra.' What now? An awkward moment, how so?

Those parents registering dozens of social media accounts, updating them, but keeping them private - the companies keep your data whether the account is private or not. The content is still theirs if it says so in the Ts&Cs even if your account is locked. Data is still being mined. They can't be that stupid, surely?

I'll also be interested as to whether all of those wensites the author mentions actually exist in 10 years.

And what if her daughter doesn't want accounts in her name? 'Gee thanks mum and dad, you really protected me by choosing my name based on available domains and then registering dozens of accounts in my actual, legal name.' Utterly bizarre that they think they're doing her a favour.

babybottombutter · 05/03/2015 01:01

Actually, yes of course they are that stupid. They chose her name based on available domains and they think a child putting on her mum's bra is 'awkward'.

babybottombutter · 05/03/2015 01:03

Anyway, the best way round it is to delete your FB account op.

babybottombutter · 05/03/2015 01:03

Anyway, the best way round it is to delete your FB account op.

MisterDobalina · 05/03/2015 01:43

That Torygraph article is jaw dropping in its ignorance about the impact of child pornography. What a dickhead.

Whether you think it's paranoid or not, we're at the beginning stages of the social media and we have no idea what path it's going to take. We can only make educated guesses as to which direction the technology will take. When FB started no one would've ever guessed it would eventually have facial recognition technology that would rival the FBI's!

I don't put pictures of my DC up for that reason. That, and I think they should have control over what goes online, and they are too little to do that so I'm exercising that right for them. When they're older they can do whatever they like.

MisterDobalina · 05/03/2015 01:43

That Torygraph article is jaw dropping in its ignorance about the impact of child pornography. What a dickhead.

Whether you think it's paranoid or not, we're at the beginning stages of the social media and we have no idea what path it's going to take. We can only make educated guesses as to which direction the technology will take. When FB started no one would've ever guessed it would eventually have facial recognition technology that would rival the FBI's!

I don't put pictures of my DC up for that reason. That, and I think they should have control over what goes online, and they are too little to do that so I'm exercising that right for them. When they're older they can do whatever they like.

MisterDobalina · 05/03/2015 01:43

Oops, bug alert ... they're watching us!

DoJo · 05/03/2015 10:08

Anyway, the best way round it is to delete your FB account op.

I don't see how that would help - other people would still be able to post their pictures of the OP's children.

countessmarkyabitch · 05/03/2015 10:14

Other people can do that anyway, whatever your feelings on the matter, ultimately pretty much anyone can do whatever they like with images of your children. There is little you can do about it in reality, other than ask them not to.

Mousefinkle · 05/03/2015 10:20

Yanbu. I don't do facebook, only instagram and Twitter but never post pictures of my DC. My mother, however, is fond of posting pictures of them and I can't say I'm over the moon about some of her 'friends' on FB seeing them but I don't want to tell her she can't do it either. It's similar to her passing photos around to her friends as she would have done ten or fifteen years ago iykwim. She does have a private profile thank god, I made sure.

Tbh I don't think pedophiles really search through people's facebook profiles in the hope they'll find some pictures of children though... There's far easier ways for them to get those photos. But yes, I think everyone's profile on FB should be private. Twitter and Instagram are different because they're just not as personal and there's the retweet and hastagging system so it's actually shit if it's private. But yes, people should be more aware in general about what they post in cyber space.

specialsubject · 05/03/2015 12:30

ask the people concerned not to post pictures. Your choice.

I have family that have requested this, and I respect it.

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