Please tell me there is a quiet way to combat these sort of comments or am I just being over sensitive, they ruin my nights out and make me nervous talking to new/drunk people for fear of what they'll come out with.
I was at a gig recently with DP and felt great, I'm a size 16/18 but I like my shape (not my size) and feel I dress to suit me etc. We got talking to this girl and she was raving about how beautiful I was and telling DP how lucky he was to have me etc. Although I found it a bit embarrassing I was really flattered but then she came out with "you should model for simply be"
I know I'm plus size but it really grates on me when someone has to comment like this. The same thing happened years ago with an old boyfriend when we were out and I just wanted the ground to swallow me up. I don't embrace my size at all and I hate terms like "big and beautiful" etc I'd much rather have nobody comment at all than to tell me how beautiful I am then in the same breath mention plus size modelling, curvy women, real women etc.
I'm overweight, I totally envy women who do embrace being plus size but I don't and it really ruins my whole night when I hear these comments.
I also can't help but wonder, are these comments really out of innocence or do these people not know in the back of their heads that they could offend?
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Fanfeckintastic · 31/01/2015 09:51
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