Genuinely not sure if I am or not, so I'm prepared to be told that I'm in the wrong. Over to you MN jury.
We moved last year into a largish Victorian terrace. The next door neighbour is a woman and two teenage sons. About two weeks after we moved in, she started playing music so loud that we could hear it in every room of the house. One of these days, about nine o clock, I'd just had enough so I went round to ask her to turn it down. (So as not to drip feed we have two dc 9 & 5)
Her dc answered the door and they turned it down. A couple of days later the woman herself came round and said that one of her dc was having a birthday party, it's a once a year thing, it might be loud but the music would go off at 12. No probs, I said, thanks for letting us know.
So the party started up. The music got going, we could hear it everywhere, it sounded like they were in our house. The music was blaring, there were 20 or 30 teens singing at the top of their voices. Ok, I thought, it's finishing at 12.
It went on til 5 in the morning. My dh who had to get up at 6 for work looked like he'd been run over. But y'know, it's once a year.
Since then, there have been another three parties, all going on while the early hours of the morning. On top of this, every so often, maybe 3 times a week, she will turn her stereo up, which I think is in the front of the house and go and do something in the kitchen which is at the back. Again, it can be heard in every room of the house.
And to now top it all off, one of her dcs appears to have got themself a drum kit. They started up the drums at 9 o clock one day last week along with someone on the keyboard. So we've been treated to that for an hour a night for the last week or so.
So basically, AIBU in thinking that when you live in a terraced house you should be a bit considerate of the noise you're making and how it might affect the neighbours? Or is this normal and I should just suck it up?
AIBU?
AIBU about the noise
Ateensybitfedup · 28/01/2015 20:34
Thanks everyone, I honestly did wonder if I was just being curmudgeonly 
When my dh went round to complain about one of the parties, she brushed it off saying it was the same for her, because she works nights and we have young kids. Even though they're at school in the day 
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almond I have wondered the same thing myself. If it carries on environmental health might be an option but how does it affect the house selling process if we decide to sell up?
But then again, I don't think I'd be able to sell to someone else, without warning them.
Am hoping her dcs are going to move out soon and go to university at least the that'll solve the drumming and the parties (hopefully)
betty unfortunately yes.
One of the lads has been round to tell us he was having a party and he's a really polite young man. We love the house apart from this and don't really want to move.
magic I don't know why, but I get the feeling she's trying to be a mate rather than a parent. She's quite similar to my sil who's the same. SIL also lets her kids have parties at her house (sometimes with a dj 
) and goes to the pub with her dcs mates. It's a good idea about asking her to come round, I think the drum kit is the final straw.
Thank you everyone for all your suggestions, I was expecting to get flamed 
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