Invasion of privacy

[Edenviolet]

So, bit of a long story and I've posted before but for those unaware I get NO support from mil/sil etc despite them living very close by. They won't help with anything at all and I rarely see them.
Mil has a key to my house for emergencies as if I got locked out she's two mins down the road so its sensible she has it although after today I am contemplating taking it back...

I've been in school with dd2 every day which mil knows about so knows my house is empty. Bear in mind she never comes round due to 'ill health' 'panic attacks' etc.
Today she managed to come round with sil, text me to ask do I still have a cleaner?!?! That my house is tidy, she looked round and saw the decorating dh had recently done and they had dropped off bags of stuff sil didn't want and thought I might ????!!!! ( not great when I've been trying to declutter to receive bin bags full of toys and clothes I wasn't asked if I wanted).

I think they should have asked first ! AIBU to think this is an invasion of my privacy ?

[BlueMoonRoses]

Yanbu. Very rude of them.

[crazylady321]

Yes very rude should of atleast asked if you mind them nipping in with some stuff they think you may like. Bit weird they dont come when you are home

[MrsPiggie]

She let herself in whilst you were away and dumped a load of junk into your house? The woman is a wacko!

[phantomnamechanger]

rude and odd!

[Bulbasaur]

If you called the police for breaking and entering, you would be well within your rights...

That's not only an invasion of privacy, it's illegal.

If a criminal found the secret key under the rock, it would still be illegal for him to enter into your house.

Change your locks (or get back the key, whatever's easier), and keep track of your keys. Get a clip inside your purse or a wallet chain. Do you drive? Keep a copy of your key in the glove box.

[Edenviolet]

It has made me really angry. All the times we've asked for help as she hasn't been able to walk the couple of mins down the road etc, haven't even seen her for ages yet as soon as she knows I'm out for a prolonged period of time she's there snooping around.

I don't understand why she didn't call or text to ask did I want the things they had left ? Dh has gone absolutely mad i think it was the final straw for him. Recently when dd2 had an op he asked mil would she pop in to make dds bed up so that when we got home we could put her into a clean bed, she refused (too ill apparently) but can manage this sort of thing when she feels like it

[AdoraBell]

Sounds like my MIL and SIL.

Text back and just say No thanks, you can pick the bags up (insert time that suits you ), and change the bloody locks.

How likely is it really that you will lock yourself out? Get some kind of key chain and attach the key to your handbag.

[Vycount]

Change locks. Return bags of junk to their doorstep. Leave emergency key with trusted neighbour or friend.