My parents split 8 years ago, affairs on both sides. They sold the family home, from which DF got 80 000 and DM got 120 (they reached some agreement whereby he got a bigger share of his pension). DM also received some inheritance from her mother, which meant she bought her own place outright and is now retired, living in a small town with a small pension but generally happy and has enough spare cash to live comfortably, but cheaply.
DF has been renting a place in the countryside in the north of england for 8 years. He is 65 and still working for a sales company. He works from home, mostly, but it is quite pressured. He has an on-off girlfriend but their relationship is a bit of a disaster and they have split up about once a year for the past 4. During the break ups, my dad gets very depressed, won't eat, won't answer his phone etc. It's a nightmare.
Anyway, landlords have given DF notice to move out as they want to sell the cottage. Now he wants to buy, in the same area, and has put an offer in for a house for which he has been offered a 90 000 pound mortage. I spoke to him last night and he looked ill with worry. His plan is to work for the next 10 years to pay off the mortgage and his backup plan if he loses his job is to pay it off with capital out of his pension which will give him barely anything to live on.
I have asked him to find something cheaper, he says he was lucky to get the mortgage and has been told he won't get offered another one. He reckons he can't buy for less than 80 000 up there, but won't move to a cheaper area.
I feel like he thinks he 'should' be in a nice area, so will take whatever risk to do so rather than cutting his cloth to suit his sail. It was the same when we were kids, he was in and out of work and we had no money. Yet, we lived in a really nice area in a huge house with a huge mortgage and I went to school with kids from rich families unable to understand why we could never afford anything in comparison. The house was badly in need of doing up but they could never afford it and the only reason they came out of the sale with any money was because the house prices went up in the area - they never paid any of the mortage off, just covered the interest for 15 years.
I live in Australia, which makes it all so much harder because he really is on his own and I don't know how to make him see sense or what alternatives to suggest - i'm not very financially minded and don't know what his best option would be. AIBU to think taking on a 90 000 mortage at 65 is a worrying prospect? He thinks he has to take the risk. thanks for reading, sorry it was so long!
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lookingspiffy · 02/09/2014 03:13
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