I live abroad, I am single with no children. I split up with my long term partner last year, so I decided to come abroad to get over him, see somewhere new and take a break from my career.
I teach English, and I was quite close to one other woman who works with me (she is a little younger, 26, I am 30.)
I am not looking for a relationship, but I am dating a couple of guys, and go out a lot.
Well, last night, I might this guy, and I liked him straight away. I was with my friend, and I told her how much I liked him, how nice he was, and me and him chatted for a while. She was talking to his friend, and she was really into him. Later me and him exchanged numbers, he wanted to come home with me, but I didn't want to. (Nothing against that, I go home with guys relatively often, I just wasn't in the mood.)
Well, quite nonchalantly this morning she texted me to say that she had slept with the guy I liked. Literally like, 'ugh, just had really disappointing sex with that guy.' I couldn't believe it. I mean, to do it, that's one thing, if she'd said, 'I'm so sorry, I drunkenly slept with that guy, I know you liked him,' I'd have been a little pissed off, but nothing major. But to just act like it was no big deal? And then she was shocked that I was upset. Like, completely shocked, and basically said I'd no right to be, as I am seeing a few different guys.
This isn't the first time this sort of thing has happened. She has put the moves on other guys I've liked in the past, but I forgave and forgot because I just didn't think it was that big a deal. But she is VERY competitive with me. Last night, for example, she said that she was inspired to study the local language by me, because she 'didn't want me to be better than her.' I told her how silly she was being, and how there was no point in competing, that she was good at a lot of things that I'm not good at, and that it was all fine.
But after last night, I just feel totally betrayed and like I can't trust her. I feel like she'll always be trying to compete with me, that she'd have sex with any guy that was interested in me to try to prove that she's 'better' than me.
AIBU to end the friendship? I told her how upset I was and she apologised saying she didn't know it would upset me, but I really can't see any way back.
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whitecandles · 31/08/2014 09:37
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