Quick back story as this could be a long one! m a former party girl, currently settled down and happier than ever with my first baby on the way, 30 weeks now. It's been a very difficult pregnancy and a lot has been spent on bed rest.
My best friend (who this post is about) was seeing my brother a year ago, then she told me she didn't really like him but didn't want to tell him herself, because he was crazy about her, so she just started ignoring him. Obviously wasn't happy with that but got over it.
My party girl days were spent mainly with aforementioned friend, who I spoke to on the phone every day and saw at least twice a week. When I told her I was pregnant she burst into tears because 'things won't be the same'. Since then I've seen her once, first time we arranged that she was going to come over, then she told me she would be a bit late which was fine, then she didn't show up and I didn't hear from her for 3 days. She'd got drunk instead of coming to see me and stayed at the house of a guy she just met.
About 4weeks ago she finally came to see me, brought 2 bottles of wine with her and announced she was staying over. I told her I was too tired to stay up late, but she could crash on the sofa if she wanted. She decided to go out instead so we said our goodbyes and that was it. The next day I went to my brothers house for his birthday party, and she was stood in his kitchen in last night's clothes. She then proceeded to berate me for being tired after she knew I'd been up at 6 for work and told me I looked 'fucking miserable'.
I felt really uncomfortable-she didn't acknowledge it or anything. My parents and family friends were asking me what she was doing there and I didn't have a clue. Essentially, my issue is that if she had just text me saying something along the lines of 'So I obviously ended up at your brothers, it was a one night thing etc...' No harm, no foul. But I haven't heard a single thing from her since. I found out from my sister she stayed at my brothers for 3days and then just went back to ignoring him.
This friend has admitted to using guys for somewhere to sleep and free booze. She has also admitted to going home with my previous boyfriend just to piss me off (nothing happened between them, it was the principal). She's lied about organising a baby shower for me and only ever talks about when I can drink again. I'm tired of her shit, she's not acknowledged what happened with my brother so I've not bothered getting in touch with her, now she's texting me constantly trying to tel me gossip I'm not interested in and ringing me when she knows I'm really poorly. I don't want to deal with the stress of a big fall out, am I being unreasonable to just ignore her?
Thanks for reading (if anyone managed to get to the end!).
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
AIBU?
To 'break up' with this friend?
23 replies
BabyPodge14 · 01/05/2014 20:34
OP posts:
Preciousbane ·
01/05/2014 21:00
This reply has been deleted
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
Don’t want to miss threads like this?
Weekly
Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!
Log in to update your newsletter preferences.
You've subscribed!
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.