Im 29 weeks pregnant with dc3, work part time an have a big project on the go. I was initially leading the project but after a long spell signed off with Hyperemesis, and the current project lead being put in place to cover for me, my boss and I agreed that on my return it didn’t make sense to hand over leadership of project to me again. We could not be certain that Hyperemesis would stay away enough to allow me to work (it didn’t with my previous 2 children and I had numerous spells in hospital during the whole 9 months each pregnancy). Also it was not clear when I would need to go on maternity leave due to other issues and I completely agree that taking a step back was the right thing to do, I am very pleased to be providing support to the project and that im still involved but glad that I don’t have the added pressure of leading it at present. Stress was a major factor in my sickness levels before.
A big deadline is looming and there is so much work still to be done I am being expected to work much longer hours to get the job done. Normally I would of course log back on to my laptop in the evening. This is pretty routine and I would do this a couple of times a week just to be on top of my normal workload let alone if there was a big chunk of work needing to be done.
However I am still on medication for Hyperemesis, (still throw up anyway but to a manageable level) and I am asleep on the sofa by 8.30pm every night after getting the children to bed/eating dinner if I fancy it. We are having some major building work done, so life is a bit upside down at home, dh has enough on his plate with project managing that and doesn’t get home til just before dc bed anyway- I just can’t see where I can possibly find another 3 hours a day to spend on work.
I could put the boys into after school club for 2 afternoons a week so that I could work longer but I resent being expected to work unpaid overtime and then having to pay for childcare to allow me to do this.
On the other hand, I do not want to let my project lead down and not “going the extra mile” would be a big black mark against me in career terms. Not that I have a career as such, I worked my way up to specialist level in my field before dc came along and have stayed there ever since quite happily but I value my reputation and would hate to feel that colleagues were thinking badly of me. My boss has already made it plain that he feels let down by my absence earlier in my pregnancy.
I don’t know what to do. WIBU to not work the extra expected of me or am I being precious? Do I need to just suck it up and get on with it?
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SicknSpan · 14/03/2014 19:31
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