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AIBU?

To want to wallow in a bit of self pity tonight? Or am I asking too much?

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HughJarse101 · 07/03/2014 21:00

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Had a few incidents when someone on public transport when someone tried to feel me up. I finally got around to reporting it to the police on Thursday, didn't think they would be particularly interested but they ended up sending 2 officers to work and took 90 mins to take a statement. I then agreed to be part of an undercover sting that night on the off chance he would be getting the same method transport home, this went on for 1 hour, was really stressful but I managed to pick him out eventually and he was arrested. I had to positively identify him in front of me (you have to say I identify you as the man in my statement who did x) which was quite frightening as obviously he can see who I am. He got taken away, I was escorted to my train home and that was it. My train went on its journey and broke down 20 mins into the journey, I got turfed off it and eventually once a new one came got home about 8pm fgs.

I told ds and dd what had happened when I got home (age 13/12) because the police mentioned they may pop in later and I didn't want them to be frightened.

I separated from ex dh in 2012. I texted him to let him know just in case the dcs mentioned it to them when they saw him and I wanted the story straight. I wasn't expecting sympathy but he barely acknowledged it and said he was surprised they'd have a case fgs.

Dp's friend from up north was down for the day as his father had had a fall and was in hospital near us. It sounds pretty terminal (he is in a coma) and I am aware that dp had arranged to see him a while ago. He is here for another week. I called dp to let him know what had happened with the police and he said well I am meeting friend at 6 (at a location half way between the station and our house) so you can pop in for a quick cuddle and I'll see you later.

I was a bit sad that he didn't say I'll see my friend another day but I'm aware I might sound like a spoilt brat for saying that and friends are v important etc. So dp stayed out with his mate and I came back, cooked tea for the kids, they went to bed and I got into bed at 10 and dp wasn't home (not sure when he came back, 11 ish).

Went to work this morning, admittedly dp gave me a nice cuddle this morning, bloke was bailed last night and I was a bit nervous of bumping into him (I saw him at the station but he didn't see me), left work, came home and tonight is dp's night to go and see his ds. Ds doesn't stay over with us so dp had to go there and he just called me to say ex-w has gone out to some gig and probably won't be back till 3/4am so he won't see me again tonight.

So am I wrong to feel a bit sorry for myself? I never ever ever do (work full time, single parent for a long time, spend my life running from pillar to post argh!) but I still feel shocked about what happened and feel I haven't really had a chance to have a proper cuddle with dp and feel better about it all.

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BumpyGrindy · 07/03/2014 21:06

First of all bloody well done! You've got that pervy wanker! HA!

Secondly...your ex...tits to him...forget that.

Your partner...in his shoes I would be pretty torn...if my best friend's Dad was dying and my partner went through what you'd been through I might have said what he said...that I'd be over later. I am sure he will give you the right support when he gets there.