A bit long and rambly I'm afraid!
DP and I are getting married this year after two DC's and being engaged some time. (Just a small registry office for close family and a handful of friends, then a meal afterwards and a piss up in a village hall for big numbers in the summer)
Anyway. Part of the reason it's taken so long to plan is because I'm dreading the family dynamics etc on the day. My parents went through a vile divorce about ten years ago, and have refused to be in same room together since (apart from when divvying up finances in court), including mum refusing to be at my graduation because he was going to be there. I want to be excited about my wedding day but I'm not, I'm dreading it. I'll feel anxious about how my mums feeling, her being upset at seeing him again, him being cold and everyone being awkward about it. Neither of my sets of grandparents are going as mum won't go if my dad's mum is there...dads refusing to do a speech as he "won't be able to keep it in the right spirit with your mum there." Whatever that means, presumably that he doesn't trust himself not to start bitching about her!
I'd love some tips on how people go about this at weddings and make it work?!
Mil is doing my box in about the whole thing too, and completely refusing to see why I might feel apprehensive about it. I also told her I wanted to do the invites (there will only be about ten of them) and I got a message from her the other day "I've arranged for the lady from my work who does wedding invites to pop and see you both on Tuesday night at 8 o clock to discuss your invites, that's okay isn't it?" Um... Thanks. She also brought me a glossy wedding mag and sniped at me "I didn't think YOU would have bought any". And she's made a list of things we need to remember to do.
I hope I don't sound too negative about it all, I adore DP and want to marry him, but the stress of the family stuff means I'm not looking forward to it. AIBU to wish that we could just fuck off somewhere the four of us and not worry about any of this? And AIBU to want mil to butt out??
( probably quite a minor wedding Aibu as they go!!)
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ElleBellyBeeblebrox · 07/02/2014 19:51
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