Bit of a back story. I was seeing a guy from work, it was never anything serious and we both knew that from the start. It was good in the beginning and then went shit fast. He was then made redundant (completely not related) and we pretty much stopped talking from that point.
This was about a month ago. In that time I sent one text asking how the job hunting was going and that work is really quiet at the moment and so he left at a good time. He never replied, and I never bothered to contact him again.
I went into work today (first day back today) and a female colleague told me he had had text a male colleague (who he had been quite friendly with, sharing lifts etc) asking for a reference and also adding me into it saying "I was gagging for it"
Now I don't care what this guy thinks, I knew he was a prick before this (definitely LTB) so it doesn't surprise me he would say this. What I'm more upset about is the male colleague firstly sharing this text as it paints me in a bad light and very much "a desperate woman"
And the fact that it was done when I wasn't there which makes it feel a whole lot worse and more bitchy (if that makes sense?). I consider this colleague a friend and someone I trusted and I just feel so hurt by this and more hurt that he didn't defend me - just something along the lines of that's disrespectful and you shouldn't speak about people like that.
I've come home and after thinking about it I've just let it out and had a good cry. It's still so raw and I still feel hurt so (in the nicest way possible) please tell me if AIBU, as I might have a quiet word tomorrow after thinking about it.
(I can honestly take a joke aimed at me, and can make them about myself but I'm not sure if I've had a sense of humour lapse because I can't find any part of it remotely funny)
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to feel hurt and that I was a joke of?
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Kubrickian · 30/01/2014 22:24
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