...to be surprised at this 2yo still sitting in a baby-stage highchair at the table?

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HowlerMonkey Tue 22-Oct-13 21:35:56

Our DS1 got shifted out of his highchair and into a booster seat when he was 19mo, in order to make room for DS2 (who was 6mo at the time).

Consequently I was a bit surprised to see a photo of one of DS1's friends (who is 2 weeks younger than him) at his family dinner table in one of those giant highchairs which you'd happily put a 6mo baby in (i.e. very supportive and all-encompassing). I think his mum may have been spoonfeeding him too - if I tried that with DS1 he'd grab it off me with a 'Mother, what are you DOING?' look hmm

The little boy is physically capable of feeding himself (I've seen him do it) and NT as far as I'm aware.

I do understand putting toddlers in highchairs when you're out to imprison them - I do that myself. But at home? At this age? Is that usual? I'm not sure whether we just moved DS1 up really early or what.

I'm not looking for a row or to be told how unpleasant I am; I'm just curious as to other people's outlooks. Thanks in advance!

JenaiMorris Wed 23-Oct-13 00:35:23

Anne has kind of beaten me - ds sat in a wooden highchair thing (one of those ones that converted into a table and chair) til he was about 5. It meant he was sat at a comfortable height. He's now 13 and as tall as me, but still chooses the chair with an ergonomic (as opposed to a toddler) cushion to do his hw <shrugs>

DoJo Wed 23-Oct-13 00:41:04

I guess the fact that DS2 followed rapidly after DS1 (and stole his chair grin) meant that we haven't followed the usual toddler timelines.

Indeed - everyone else has the wall planner which tells you what a 'normal' toddler should be doing, and we all follow it slavishly, ticking off the milestones and arranging our holidays to ensure that we don't accidentally use a high chair at a non-approved time in our child's life. grin

In all honesty OP, from the asides in your initial post it does sound as though you know you are being massively judgemental about this, and there's nothing wrong with being proud that your situation required you to move your first child into a booster seat ahead of one of his peers. However you have to understand that this kind of comparison pisses people off because it is both completely irrelevant and wildly subjective - there are many factors which go into the decision of how to seat a child while they eat rather than it being based solely on ability, maturity, dexterity or any other factor which is related to the child's age or stage of achievement.

Morloth Wed 23-Oct-13 00:41:20

DS2 still uses his highchair to sit at the table and he is 3 and a half.

We just took the tray off and push it up to the table. He gets in and out as he likes.

Why does it matter?

ColderThanAWitchsTitty Wed 23-Oct-13 00:46:38

we havent got a table, I suppose I could stick my 2 year old on the lazy boy with a tray.. but I feel like that would end badly... and she is nearly 3 and HUGE. I love her antiklop and will keep her there until she cant bloody fit anymore

NoComet Wed 23-Oct-13 01:09:17

DH remembers sitting in his high chair so he must have been quite old.

(My earliest memory is 2.5)

He does say it was a huge old fashioned high chair.

JellyTopicecreamisthebest Wed 23-Oct-13 01:41:08

my girls 12 and 8 still sit in their trip traps

sleepywombat Wed 23-Oct-13 01:56:12

My 3.5 yo is in a booster, my 21 mo is in a highchair. Will have to buy another booster when new baby is weaning (not for 9 months), as my eldest is small for his age & cannot reach the table properly without.

Like others, I don't understand what's wrong with older children being in highchairs (as long as they're not unattended/climbing out etc)? It works fine for us.

I don't spoonfeed my 21 mo (very independent, aka messy), I did sometimes spoonfeed my 3.5 yo at that age (very clingy - really different personality). He now has lovely table manners, eats with knife & fork just fine.

NewbieMcNewbie Wed 23-Oct-13 03:25:49

I'm sure DS was in a high chair far longer than would be acceptable to some people. He didn't particularly need to be in it. I wanted him in it. It made my life easier. He didn't mind.

I didn't have a second child close behind him though. I imagine small age gaps force you to move through all the stages a lot quicker. We were in no hurry.

flatmum Wed 23-Oct-13 03:40:56

My ds3 has just turned 3 and still sits in his ikea blue highchair that he has been in since weaning at 6 months (antilop or whatever it is called). He also still sleeps in his cot. He is quite small and fits nicely in both - eats well without too much mess and sleeps like a dream. Hence, as he is the last with no one coming behind him, I really dont feel any huge hurry to shift him - though we will soon. I really just need to go down to ikea and buy one of those tall stools for him - bit as he still fits in the highchair (no tray for ages) - whats the rush?

I think with your first you do rush through the stages a bit due to the novelty factor, and both his brothers had to shift earlier due to upcoming siblings.

SantiagoToots Wed 23-Oct-13 04:36:03

It's a fucking chair! Sometimes I sit on a wooden stool (too small for my are), sometimes I slouch on the couch. IT"S A FUCKING ARSE REST!

SantiagoToots Wed 23-Oct-13 04:38:05

It come with sadness I note I've never bought a booster-chair, have I failed my children? Have they not developed properly due to my poor parenting and oversight? sad

MrsMook Wed 23-Oct-13 05:12:28

DS1 changed to a booster at roughly 18m-ish as he was wanting to climb out of the high chair at the end of a meal, and we felt a booster was safer for self service.

He will occasionally request being spoonfed when he's tired. This has increased now we've started weaning DS 2. But generally he will feed independently, and ask for a bit of help with cutting when he's struggling.

He's very independently minded on that kind of skill and does things like that sooner than his cousin who's 6m+ older. They're all different.

JamieandtheMagicTorch Wed 23-Oct-13 06:08:20

OP HAS ADMITTED SIBU.

read the thread

JamieandtheMagicTorch Wed 23-Oct-13 06:09:19

sorry for shouting, and that wasn't addresssed at anyone in particular, just anyone joining the thread .

Yabu. Dd was more than capable of sitting on a
Booster seat at about 19mo, but she wouldn't actually stay there for more than 3 seconds so she was imprisoned in her high chair until she was nearly 3 when she learned to sit still.

Sorry Jamie, just making sure op got the message ;0)

MiaowTheCat Wed 23-Oct-13 07:39:50

If the dining tables clear and both kids are eating at the same time then the eldest goes on a booster seat, if not, then we use the high chair. So what?

MothershipG Wed 23-Oct-13 07:54:28

My 11 & 13 year olds are still using the tripp trapp chairs they had when they were babies, DH and I use them too, do I win? wink grin

cory Wed 23-Oct-13 08:04:34

Some people like buying all the right things, others try to muddle through with as few things as they can.

We never bought a Moses basket (put the detachable basket on the buggy in the cot) or a car seat (didn't have a car) or a booster seat (used highchair until child tall enough to sit on ordinary chair) or a travel cot (put child on mattress on the floor). Just economy, really.

Have a lovely photo of ds in his high chair happily spoon feeding his 5yo sister, so I don't suppose it did any harm.

Featherbag Wed 23-Oct-13 08:04:57

Isn't this a bit of a non-issue? DS (just 2 but at very top end of height and weight centiles) has a highchair at home (antilop) as otherwise he escapes and throws food around, he has a stays-in-place bowl that only works on the highchair tray. He has a booster seat for eating out. It has honestly never occurred to me that someone would give even a millisecond of thought to what my toddler sits in to eat!

imofftolisdoonvarna Wed 23-Oct-13 08:53:41

I am can be a bit of a judgy pants sometimes, but here I think that immortal AIBU line 'why do you care?' could not be more appropriate. We are talking about a 2 year old not a 22 year old.

Although to be fair op has conceded that SIBU.

soverylucky Wed 23-Oct-13 09:08:25

Dd was in her high chair till nearly three. It was much easier for us that way and as she didn't walk till she was over two she didn't have the balance that most two year olds have that is necessary when sitting just on a booster cushion. I honestly think there are greater things to worry about than what age a tot sits in their high chair for. She has grown up fine and has not been damaged by this experience.

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