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To think that you shouldn't dump someone IN BED!(81 Posts)
Years ago, I had a boyfriend who did this! I'd been going out with him for 18 months and although I'd spent the whole of the evening in question with him, he didn't chuck me until we got into bed together. Looking back, I think he was too cowardly to do it face to face, but once the lights were out he found that he could do it. I didn't live with him, but I'd driven there and then had several drinks, so I still stayed the night (in the spare room). No idea why I didn't get a taxi - I was kind of mortified by shock tbh. I also have a friend who was once dumped at the top of a mountain! She and her now ex-boyfriend then hiked back to her car and she still gave him a lift home. We thought it would have been so funny if she'd left him in the wilderness, but on reflection maybe maintaining her dignity was good. What's the shittiest way in which you've been dumped?
Like kotinka can't help laughing at the broccoli...
I wasn't actually dumped on holiday, but I knew I would be dumped as soon as we got back. It was my only time going to Barbados and it was full of dreamy honeymooners, so the contrast was, um, stark...
Um - I sort of did the dumping in bed...
My ex-fiance decided that he wanted a temporary split because I was going away with my family for a couple of weeks. He chose to announce this to me while we were lounging about in bed right after we'd had sex. This was the exact moment that I developed my huge cynical view of life, because I could just see exactly how it would play out - during the "temporary split", he would get to shag around, I'd be faithful to him, and he'd "take me back" when I got home. I realised right then and there that he was only ever going to muck me about (he'd cheated on me three times already - you'd think I'd have seen it sooner!) so I dumped him well and truly, saying "I'm not having that. You just want to make sure you can pull and shag anyone you like and not be made to feel guilty by our friends because you'll have told them we've split up. Forget it. I'm not wasting anymore time with a bastard that can't keep his knob inside his own trousers for three weeks!"
From what I hear, he still can't seem to remain faithful, so I had a lucky escape!
stopfighting. Good for you!
In my 20s I dumped a boyfriend on MSN messenger But he did have a tendency to get incredibly angry and throw things around over the slightest problem (that's why I was leaving him) and I wasn't brave enough to tell him face-to-face in case he lashed out at me.
Yes, I had a boyfriend once that dumped me right before a lad's holiday, then we "made up" on his return. How thick was I ?
it turned out later some young woman tracked him down to tell him she was pregnant as a result of their liason on that holiday. Oh dear.
"but we were on a break"
Oh do Fuck off dear
I had a similar experience. After DTD twice with an ex, I woke up at 3am to discover he had done a bunk. I didn't hear from or see him for a week until he came over to dump me
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I was with someone for 4.5 years (from 17) and we were engaged. I had some super hard exams to sit as part of my new job.
A week before my exams started, he came home at midnight and broke up with me while I was in bed. Two weeks later (the day before I was due to sit the final exam) he rang me to say he regretted it and that he wanted to come round. When I say no, he was was shocked and say "What, I can't come round at all?!?".
He owed me quite a lot of money and was slow to pay it back. God, I dodged a bullet there.
God some of the stories on here are awful! Men can be nasty fuckers! I was with my ex for nearly 6 years (from when I was 15 and he was 18) had our Ds at 17. Right from the start he messed me about, lied to me and was violent. He split up with me loads of times but probably the most heartless was on Christmas Eve while he was drunk. I thought when he asked me round to his house (we never lived together) on Christmas Day that he was sorry but he wasn't and just wanted to clarify that we were definitely finished.
He also prefers men now. I've since found out that a lot of his behaviour and lies all centred around him being with various men (one someone I went to school with). What made it worse was we lived in a small town, so nothing was private and it turned out loads of people knew what he was up to (including at least 2 of my 'best friends') but didn't think it was their place to tell me
So glad I'm now rid of the cunt.
My ex fiancé dumped me via text. 4weeks prior to the wedding.
I had moved 200 miles to be with him, I'd uprooted my dd1, we had papers for him to adopt her, he was supposed to be supporting me through pnd, we were talking about TTC after the wedding. Whole life plans and everything.
About a week after he dumped me, I met him to go through paperwork and to finalise everything between us. He thought it would be an appropriate time to tell me he had met someone else and could he possibly sort out a meeting between her and dd. I told him the adoption would not be going ahead, he threatens to get full custody and throws the pnd in my face. Twat.
A week later I got all the deposits back from the venue, sold my dresses on eBay and had all money paid to my account. I used that to move back home and to get us sorted out back in Yorkshire!!
I cancelled everything in the flat we had and transfered what I couldn't cancel (sky, phone etc) to my new house and so he came back to an empty flat with no power or anything!!
I've not hears from him apart from an apologetic email about 4 years ago. It was apparently my fault he cheated because I wasn't up to "decent sex, only the shitty vanilla stuff" I didn't reply!!
Oh my god, some of these are AWFUL
I did dump someone in bed once. He was smelly. I had tried everything to get him to have a wash, including trying to get him to have sex in the shower, but he remained smelly
Those were the days....
I was dumped by ansaphone message once
It's not you it's me ...
First bf of 3 years dumped by text twice and was then shagging some girl at his uni.
Then partners of 5 years and suppose to marry, dumped me in front of packed pub, then in bed on evening even though had spent day having sex and telling me he loved me. He did it when his parents came over the coward.
Iv learnt my lesson, blokes dont get a second chance with me!
At 17 my fiance broke up with me in bed. i sobbed all night with him lying there in my bed. next morning Mum drove him home. so awkward and out of nowhere for me... I had chosen him as a completely safe bet who would never break up with me. his Mum told him I was messed up and controlling. she was right. it didn't stop him sagging me for a few more weeks though, before deciding to go out with my best friend and asking her out right in front of me. was all a total mess leaving me in hospital from an overdose.
teenagers... I met my husband 2 weeks later and have been together 15 years. so it all worked out well!
Monstrous thats awfull!!
My one ex id spent two fucking hours getting to his house as train had been
Cancelled, then found other was seeing men too.
Went to see my boyfriend after two weeks of him talking about how much he was going to love me and give me an awesome first time experience. Went all they way there, was shutting it and so excited. Waited for him downstairs, wondered why his.mum looked so angry and upset, he came down and told me I wasn't the girl for him and pretty much chucked me out.
Waiting for the bus at the stop down the road I saw him and his new girlfriend laughing as they left the house. I was 15 and devastated.
Was hilarious though a decade later when I saw him.again, he was all over me saying what a dick he had been. I suggested he spend £60 on a couple of really nice wine bottles and then drank them with my friends and left. With them and him still trying to Granby number out of me.
Fuck me reading some of these stories I really hope karma caught up to these guys. :-( shitty behaviour from so many.
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Hoping this will be cathartic...
Once dumped a lovely guy when he flew to a different continent to meet me. I was having doubts, but naively thought that once I saw him they would all disappear. They didn't, I should have been brave and not let him get on the flight. Still feel ashamed years later.
But he got the last laugh, because we ended up getting back together later, and he then dumped me via email.
I got dumped at the drop off zone at an airport, in the morning when my flight wasn't until the evening and he knew all earlier flights were full, I got told to get into the car as we were going to have a day out, he drove to the airport then he pulled up to the drop off zone and left me there. been together about 15 months.
my friend has JUST arrived back from NYC. She had been there for 4 days when he 'd'h dumped her. he had moved out for work, so had his flights etc all paid for, job waiting. she had gone because she may as well pursue work in NYC as it had the UN, so more opportunities for what she wants to do, so had stopped looking for work in London. Had to stay there for another fortnight to try and get everything sorted, esp. money for the flight home again. She now has had to go back to her parents as she has no job or room in London with her friends. less than ideal.
My worst wasn't actually a break up though. A guy I was (am?!?!) friends with and I on more than one occasion go back to his - it's v casual, no relationship, which suits us both. However, he once kicked me out at 5:30 in the morning - shite, but I completely rationalised it and made it my fault. The next time, it was half 4. I was still drunk (cos it had been a late night), and all my other friends (and me) would not allow someone to completely cross London drunk and alone at that time, let alone kick them out. He told me I should just wait for the tubes to start, and that it wouldnt be too bad, cos you know, it's not like there was any relationship. What a wanker.
At work one day a colleague came into my office and asked if we had any cardboard boxes he could take home.
I asked if he was moving house and he said "No, well, Sharon is. We're splitting up and she's moving out and needs some boxes for her stuff."
I said I was sorry and he said "No, it's fine, it's my idea. She doesn't know yet, I'm going to tell her when I give her the boxes."
He went on to break up with his next girlfriend while they were in bed. I know this because she worked with us and told everyone. She said she loved him, he didn't reply, she asked him if he loved her and he said "Well actually I've been meaning to talk to you about that..."
An ex boyfriend of mine got dumped by his next girlfriend, who he was living with at the time, when she asked him to drive her the 150 miles or so back to her parents house for a visit to pick up a car they had bought for her.
The arrived, had a lovely weekend, drove back one in each car on the Sunday night. He went to work the next day and found that she had emptied the house of her stuff and driven back to her parents in the new car, never to be seen again.
Apparently she'd booked a removals van to follow her back down the motorway with the furniture and things she couldn't fit in the new car.
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