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To think if you say home at 8pm you come home

(42 Posts)
Chattymummyhere Thu 26-Sep-13 20:55:48

Instead I had an over tired child wondering why daddy did not come home to out him to bed... The answer because his too busy bloody bowling than to stick to his deal!!

Wibu to lock the shite out purely because of how much he has upset our child?

where is he?

Chattymummyhere Thu 26-Sep-13 20:58:13

Bowling phones off or dead

oh sorry didn't read your op properly.

LEMisdisappointed Thu 26-Sep-13 21:03:49

Does this happen frequently?

Chattymummyhere Thu 26-Sep-13 21:04:57

Being late in general yes

PurpleFairy3 Thu 26-Sep-13 21:07:22

If this is a frequent thing then I don't think YABU. If it's a one off, I might be a little more forgiving... although I would expect a call to say "I'm going to be late" at the very least!

livinginwonderland Thu 26-Sep-13 21:12:21

If it's regular, YANBU. It's so frustrating, especially when they don't even call to explain, and especially if he said he'd be home to kiss your DS goodnight.

WorraLiberty Thu 26-Sep-13 21:17:19

YANBU to be annoyed

But YWBU to lock him out of his own home

Apart from the fact you can't legally do it, he's going to be banging on the door and waking your DS up surely?

WandaDoff Thu 26-Sep-13 21:19:30

I wouldn't lock him out.

I might go & clean the toilet with his toothbrush though. wink

londonmum14 Thu 26-Sep-13 21:52:22

I'd lay on the emotional guilt in the morning of how upset DC was that his daddy wasn't back in time to say goodnight. Though as this isn't the first time then I guess that's not going to work!

Chattymummyhere Thu 26-Sep-13 22:42:17

I like the toilet toothbrush idea... Tbh if he started hammering on the door I would call the police I reckon that's very threatening behaviour more so when I know bowling also includes alcoholic drinks..

I messaged one of the lads he was out with to pass on a message about our child... Turns out this mate told me he would pass the message on and did not!! Dh is fuming with said mate, apparently he thought ds would of fallen asleep on the sofa and would come home and lift him to bed, my message was to say that ds was still up awake and very upset... But friend totally lied and never passed on the message so dear friend is going to get it in the neck at work tomorrow, as it appears he did not pass it on purely to keep dh out having fun with him..

I've told dh X is no friend of mine if he is going to lie to me and withhold information that would of made dh come straight home.. So X is no longer my friend and if someone can have some little care for an upset child over a drinking/bowling buddy he can stay the hell away from my kids best man at our wedding or not!

SweetSeraphim Thu 26-Sep-13 22:45:45

Blimey. I honestly think you should calm down a bit. You're massively overreacting.

FunnysInLaJardin Thu 26-Sep-13 22:49:58

I thought you were talking about a teenaged child. The guilt thing about your DC is naff. 8pm isn't late although breaking promises is not on. That bit about the best man is bonkers btw

whois Thu 26-Sep-13 22:52:14

Um. Right. Sounds awesome.

SweetSeraphim Thu 26-Sep-13 22:55:10

So when you couldn't get hold of him you tried to guilt his mate instead? Why? Your child isn't I'll or anything confused

SweetSeraphim Thu 26-Sep-13 22:55:38

*ill obviously

GeeTeeEff Thu 26-Sep-13 22:58:35

Erm, firstly calm down.

Secondly, do you know for definite the friend didn't pass the message on? Sounds like a likely excuse to me. I wouldn't have even text the friend. It's a bit...I dunno, an over reaction. Fair enough your H said he'd be home at 8pm. It's not the end of the world. I'd have snuggled up with dc, an extra bedtime story and cuddle.

Tinpin Thu 26-Sep-13 23:00:46

Good grief. What a fuss about nothing. Put the child to bed and tell him daddy will see him in the morning. Have you never stayed out later than you said when you were enjoying yourself?

WhoNickedMyName Thu 26-Sep-13 23:03:47

Your DS's upset probably stemmed from him picking up on your anger and upset. I think you're massively over-reacting.

CoffeeTea103 Thu 26-Sep-13 23:05:09

Massive overreaction. How do you know if your DH is telling the truth about his friend not giving you the message? He didn't keep his promise to come home at 8, so why do you think he isn't lying about this too?
Also did you made up some excuse to your son just to get him to sleep rather than be more concerned about trying to get your DH to come home.

SaucyJack Thu 26-Sep-13 23:05:42

How often does he do it?

You sound like a complete fishwife on this thread tbh, but if he frequently goes out on the piss without any consideration for his wife and child waiting for him at home then this is prob. just the straw that broken the camel's back.

The friend excuse sounds like me telling my parents that I was holding the cigarette for a friend.

sweetestcup Thu 26-Sep-13 23:24:08

But surely if he had promised to be home he wouldn't need his friend to remind him, or am I missing something? hmm

Waferthinmint Thu 26-Sep-13 23:26:04

This all sounds terribly immature.

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