Seriously, finding things out through FB?

(63 Posts)

Brother is at the hospital after been attacked by someone his room mate knows and I only found out because my brothers friend has taken him and commented on FB about it?!

Its not like my brother doesn't have a phone so he could phone us. His mate we have know n years too.

It was also FB where I found out a relative had died and then when the funeral was. Why cant people just pick up a phone?!

Oh, hes ok btw. Just doing tests now as he is prone to fitting. Nit something that family should find out about on FB

FredFredGeorge Wed 18-Sep-13 22:42:17

Maybe he's just not that close to you?

PeppiNephrine Wed 18-Sep-13 22:44:55

Because they don't want to call you?

SuperStrength Wed 18-Sep-13 22:45:31

Shouldn't you be be more worried about the fact your brother has been hurt rather than the way in which you found out?
This is not about you, it's about him. If you were my sis I'd be seriously unimpressed with you..

HaveALittleFaith Wed 18-Sep-13 22:46:17

My SIL posted about her engagement before she rang DH, had time to ring their Nan and other sister though hmm

The last thing I would want to do if I've just been attacked is start phoning people about it. Your brother is probably in shock.

littlemisswise Wed 18-Sep-13 22:47:17

YANBU. I found out my niece had given birth via Fb. I had knitted lots of clothes and blankets for her and bought her a swing, yet no-one (wasn't expecting her to meaning my mum or my sister) could be arsed to phone or text me. I was really hurt if I am honest.

Glad your brother is ok.

CocacolaMum Wed 18-Sep-13 22:48:55

you text/call someone, you have text/call everyone.. you post on facebook and within minutes everyone has been informed and you can get back to the matter at hand.

Easy decision.

TheRealHousewifeOfSomewhere Wed 18-Sep-13 22:53:00

It's crap.

A close friend of mine found out that her mum had died through her niece's fb status.

Her sister did call her less than 5 minutes later to break the news but her niece had got to fb first.

PoppyWearer Wed 18-Sep-13 22:57:51

We had to impose a Facebook embargo after the births of our DCs for this reason - we couldn't trust one side of the family not to post the news before the other side had been told.

I've also had to tell off a family member for posting news of a death before all relatives had been informed.

As a general rule, I think births are only ok to be announced by the parents on FB and deaths only in certain specific cases.

WreckTangle Wed 18-Sep-13 23:11:10

A close friend of mine found out that her mum had died through her niece's fb status.

Now that is shocking. That is unforgivable IMO. I cannot even imagine logging in to be faced with that sad

Op, was it your brother who put it in FB? If not he can't really be blamed. Hope he's ok.

I stated he is fine. This was posted after I had spoke to him!

It wasn't him that put it on FB but his friend who was with him who could have easily rang anyone of us when he was writing it all over FB.

Never said it was all about me. Its not like I saw it then posted here straight away. I have been intouch and spoken to him and his friend which is how I knew he was ok. Then I posted about FB

lisad123everybodydancenow Wed 18-Sep-13 23:13:57

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Iaintdunnuffink Wed 18-Sep-13 23:14:36

Brother is hurt, being treated, shocked and in no position to phone. Friend is ewaiting in hospital, in shock & wants to communicate to a wide audience.

I've been in hospital with planned treatment and not felt up to calling close family.

My brother rang his friend who then took him to hospital. There is no wider audience as my brother doesn't have FB. All other A&E visits he has have we have been text or rang.

ToffeeCaramel Wed 18-Sep-13 23:31:40

That is shocking RealHousewife
There is a boarding school I read about in the news where a pupil died and the parents found out via the school website shock

HoneyDragon Wed 18-Sep-13 23:35:21

In fairness to your brother he probably thought he may as well get checked over then call when he had something to tell you.

Friend was a plank though.

Minshu Wed 18-Sep-13 23:43:40

It's the way of the world now, unfortunately. I found out about my brother's impending divorce via FB updates from ex-SIL. Learning of a family member's death that way is appalling!

He normally gets in touch as hes going. He has fits and finds himself down there alot.

I found this out at half 9ish and spoke to him and made sure he was ok before starting this. Its not like I saw the FB comment and didn't bother about him and just complained here

Tellinthetruth Thu 19-Sep-13 02:30:21

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Tellinthetruth Thu 19-Sep-13 02:35:22

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Tellinthetruth, after immediate family were informed I "announced" the loss of my father on Facebook. It meant everyone knew without me having to hear "in some ways, it's a release" or similar from many people. It may not be how you choose to express your grief, but it helped me with mine. OP yanbu to be hurt by your brother though.

Blont Thu 19-Sep-13 04:23:28

I don't get the fuss over this 'protocol of who gets contacted first'. When things like this happen people aren't thinking straight, so shouldn't have to abide by some kind of stupid hierarchy in terms of who gets told when or how. It's just important that everyone gets told reasonably quickly.

ZenGardener Thu 19-Sep-13 04:27:01

I didn't think you could use mobile phones in a hospital so perhaps that's why your brother hadn't called you.

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