To be on the verge of removing my dd from school for rest of year 6

(69 Posts)
measuringcup Tue 17-Sep-13 09:59:06

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littlewhitebag Tue 17-Sep-13 10:02:10

You need to call a meeting with the school and spell out your concerns and find out what they plan to do to ensure your child can remain in school. I am quite sure your DD will not be the only child who is being treated like this by the other child. I obviously know nothing about the other child but there may be reasons why she behaves like that and the school may have a plan in place for dealing with her. However, it is not good if your child is suffering.

measuringcup Tue 17-Sep-13 10:05:14

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TeeBee Tue 17-Sep-13 10:06:48

Have you talked to the teacher about it? If nothing is being done, talk to the head teacher and go and see her every single day it happens, every day. If, after a couple of weeks, nothing has changed, go to the governors and take it up with them. You should not have to move your child for another's behaviour.

measuringcup Tue 17-Sep-13 10:07:36

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littlewhitebag Tue 17-Sep-13 10:07:43

Well that at least is a positive. Does the other child have friends? Is it only your child she targets? I wondered if they met socially away from school and got to know each other if maybe a truce could be called?

measuringcup Tue 17-Sep-13 10:10:00

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friday16 Tue 17-Sep-13 10:12:00

School are trying to deal with her.

State or private?

measuringcup Tue 17-Sep-13 10:12:52

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measuringcup Tue 17-Sep-13 10:14:03

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measuringcup Tue 17-Sep-13 10:22:11

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TwoMuchTwoYoung Tue 17-Sep-13 10:24:39

So what have you done, who have you written to, what have you said to the Headteacher?

measuringcup Tue 17-Sep-13 10:28:40

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friday16 Tue 17-Sep-13 10:32:22

I've had meetings with blooming everyone

But what has been done, and what have you done when things haven't been done? For example, if the head is ineffectual, have you approached the governors or the LEA?

I would suspect that pulling your child out is a reasonable move. If the school can't or won't do anything, then year 6 is pretty much a dead loss with SATs anyway so either moving your child or home educating would be a sensible thing to do. In the time available, the school's unlikely to do in six months what it hasn't done in six years.

The offender will almost certainly get a shock at secondary school, and will probably end up excluded within a year or so. The parents might wake up a bit then.

Ilisten2theradio Tue 17-Sep-13 10:48:07

If things aren't changing, then forget meetings, everything needs to be in writing.
You need to e-mail or write to the head every time there is an issue and so do the other parents of children affected. if the head is not doing anything then you need to involve the governors
You need to ask how the school intend to safeguard your child.
I take it you have asked to see their anti-bullying policies and asked what happens when they don't work?
If you get nowhere with the governors you can then involve the LEA and OFSTED.

measuringcup Tue 17-Sep-13 10:53:51

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lljkk Tue 17-Sep-13 11:09:49

Realistically, where could your child go to school instead?

Pixieonthemoor Tue 17-Sep-13 11:20:33

Is there another school (state or private) near who you could approach to move your dd to? Also I second going to the LEA. And bringing in the governors a bit more. Perhaps rope all the parents of the bullied children together and present a united front. I am so so sorry for you and your dd. Sounds utterly awful and I am aghast that the school seems to have done precisely squat to sort the situation.

measuringcup Tue 17-Sep-13 11:40:36

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ZZZenagain Tue 17-Sep-13 11:43:18

oh goodness, get the poor girl out of there. If you can home educate her till she starts secondary, do it. If it has been going on for two years and the school is proving ineffective, what will improve if your dd stays there?

Chrysanthemum5 Tue 17-Sep-13 11:46:09

You say the other child's parents are on board so what are they doing to stop this? If it's happening at hometime are they around at that point?

quoteunquote Tue 17-Sep-13 11:53:29

keep a detailed diary of what happened and the responses,

Deliver your child to the head at 8.30am each morning,

"Here is Mini Measuringcup, I Measuringcup hand her over to your personal care, I hold you personally responsible for all her welfare until 3pm when I will retrieve her from your personal care at this location"

Put it in writing sign and date, and do it every single day,

you have jumped through all their hoops the problem still exists, you need to make them find the solution,

their solution is at the moment count down the days until this child is someone else problem,

Their choice, but do not allow their choice impact on your child.

Ilisten2theradio Tue 17-Sep-13 12:03:16

also have you seen ][https://www.gov.uk/complain-about-school this]] about how to formally complain about the school?

SunshineMMum Tue 17-Sep-13 15:38:12

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Pixieonthemoor Tue 17-Sep-13 19:13:55

What are you going to do next OP?

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