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to mention or wind my neck in??

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grumpymummamucker · 10/09/2013 14:32

when dropping off dd at school this morning noticed that the girl in front had very obv headlice. the girl didnt have her hair tied back it was just down with a headband.
we are all quite new as its the start of a new school for all of them, so dont know the mum to speak too.

would you mention it, dont want to say anything to the mum as she may have just not known and dont want to come across as a complete judemental cow (all kids get nits, mine included and has anyone else noticed that they seem to be super strong mutant nits atm) but dont know if i should say something to the teacher to have a quiet word.

my dd has very curly hair and have to be on top of it as she veiws a nit comb as a torture device, wwyd.... quiet word or pull neck in and say nothing and just keep a close eye on my own dd?

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CharlieAlphaKiloEcho · 10/09/2013 14:34

Mention it to the teacher and let them approach the parents.

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OHforDUCKScake · 10/09/2013 14:34

Id mention it to the teacher, they pass round a letter.

In the mean time, keep them at bay with nit combing weekly. Not what you want to hear.

But it will be easier to get the odd stray one out than doing it daily for a week because of an infestation...

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Marrow · 10/09/2013 14:34

I would probably have a quiet word with the teacher and let her speak to the mum. If they are that noticeable though then the teacher has probably already spotted them.

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OHforDUCKScake · 10/09/2013 14:34

Id mention it to the teacher, they pass round a letter.

In the mean time, keep them at bay with nit combing weekly. Not what you want to hear.

But it will be easier to get the odd stray one out than doing it daily for a week because of an infestation...

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OHforDUCKScake · 10/09/2013 14:34

Id mention it to the teacher, they pass round a letter.

In the mean time, keep them at bay with nit combing weekly. Not what you want to hear.

But it will be easier to get the odd stray one out than doing it daily for a week because of an infestation...

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TheProsAndConsOfHitchhiking · 10/09/2013 14:34

I would probably have a quiet word with the teacher. At least then a letter will probably get sent out to all parents.

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Listentomum · 10/09/2013 14:35

No don't mention. If you noticed then I'm sure her parents have, salt not e erroneous keeps on top of them a long a you do your bit there's nothing you can do about others who don't.

If dd gets nits contact the school and they will put a letter out.

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Listentomum · 10/09/2013 14:35

No don't mention. If you noticed then I'm sure her parents have, salt not e erroneous keeps on top of them a long a you do your bit there's nothing you can do about others who don't.

If dd gets nits contact the school and they will put a letter out.

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OHforDUCKScake · 10/09/2013 14:37

Ha! We all did multiple messages then.

Was there a glitch in the Matrix?

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grumpymummamucker · 10/09/2013 14:38

thank you for the replies, will have a quiet word with the teacher, just didnt want to come across as a bit 'tell tale' to the teacher if you know what i mean lol

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SilverStreak7 · 10/09/2013 14:40

Nits .,, Bane of my life when mine were younger .. Id do what others suggest and tell a teacher (but not say what you have seen on the other child) and a letter will be put out pretty quickly .

I found Tea Tree Oil and a very fine toothed nit comb got rid of them for good quite a lot of years ago now .. . They really are a pain , , and also they LOVE clean hair so no shame in anyone having nits ,, ,

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grumpymummamucker · 10/09/2013 14:53

Do you think the mum does know though, i was thinking that if she did she would have tied her little girls hair up rather than leaving it down?

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FreudiansSlipper · 10/09/2013 14:56

mention it to the teacher they can choose to act on it

maybe the parents had just not noticed it can happen

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Feminine · 10/09/2013 14:57

You have enviable eye-sight!

Grin

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WeAreSeven · 10/09/2013 14:59

I don't think they actually do prefer clean hair, do they? I thought that was put about by HCP's to take the "shame" out of it?

God, these threads make my head itch!

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Dahlen · 10/09/2013 15:02

She probably does know and doesn't care.

Any child can get lice. Having them is no reflection on someone's parenting. Not removing or managing them is.

Even a hard-to-eradicate infestation should not result in any more than about a 10-12 adult lice on a child's head if treatment is regularly applied and/or combing carried out (eggs and newly-hatched nymphs would be impossible to spot unless you were going through the hair). If this child is visibly crawling with lice, neither course of action has been taken, and if you noticed stood behind her, you'd expect this child's parents to have noticed given that they see their DD every day.

However, tying back her hair would not reduce the risk of transmission, since lice crawl from scalp to scalp, not hair to hair. Heads need to be touching, albeit only for a couple of seconds.

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WilsonFrickett · 10/09/2013 15:06

These threads make my head itch but I'm dying to know what salt not e erroneous meant Listen's post... that's some autocorrect.

Also agree, tell teacher not mum.

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claraschu · 10/09/2013 15:10

In the US they send children home from school if they have lice. That is too extreme, but I don't understand why the particular parents can't be told very clearly that they have to deal with the problem. In my daughter's school, they just send form letters home every month or two. Some children are constantly infested, and no pressure is put on the parents at all.

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Feminine · 10/09/2013 16:18

Yes, they do send them home in the US. Where I lived there, it happened a lot.

The Americans I knew (family etc) were either mortified when their kids got them, or nonchalant!

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