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To not want to send DD to nursery in stained clothes

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PartyFops Thu 05-Sep-13 20:11:04

I am so fed up with DDs (2.3) clothes getting ruined at nursery, she only goes 3 times a week and I would say at least 50% of the time she comes home with stains on her clothes that don't wash out.

Its either paint or food, today I threw away 2 dresses as one had orange down the front and the other one had blue paint all over the front.

I'm not annoyed with the nursery, as I know its DDs fault rather than theirs, but I really really dont want to take her to nursery in stained clothes.

I don't send her in expensive stuff but still its costing me a fortune!!

Just to add, I dont mind a little stain, but the ones this week completely ruined 2 lovely dresses.

rant over! grin

SatinSandals Thu 12-Dec-13 16:56:28

I always get caught by old threads. If I ran a nursery I would make it plain from the first meeting that they needed old clothes and they would get dirty and messy and not to choose me if they don't like it!

Runlikeareindeer Thu 12-Dec-13 12:10:17

The op was posted in Sept!

SatinSandals Thu 12-Dec-13 10:07:56

You can pick up cheap, hardly worn, good quality clothes in charity shops, car boots etc -keep them for nursery and it won't matter.

MPB Thu 12-Dec-13 10:05:15

Get ready for the white board pens at school then. They don't wash off, despite scrubbing/ vanish / ace bleach. So mine go in with tops with black marks on.

Oh and the sand, DS2 came out stained orange from the sandpit. I did bin that white top as it was washed several times and wouldn't come clean.

A few years down the line and you will not care.

ipswichwitch Thu 12-Dec-13 09:16:13

DS has separate nursery clothes - all cheap, in dark colours or with patterns that hide stains. Cold wash with stain remover (sainsburys own brand is good hand half the price of vanish) usually works a treat.
Never mind wearing aprons, you could wrap DS head to toe in cling film and he'd still get mucky he's 2 fgs! As it happens he refuses point blank to wear an apron for painting, he gets upset and won't join in so I told nursery not to bother. That's what his change of clothes in his bag is for.

FairyTiggybelle Thu 12-Dec-13 08:59:26

BTW, with stained clothes why not dye them? If all stain removal methods have failed it's better than throwing them out.

FairyTiggybelle Thu 12-Dec-13 08:57:46

I've always found that red and black are the worst colours for staining. I never did the very messy activities with those colours.

Aprons are never 100% effective. Paint can sneak up the arms. So can painty water when hand washing. And there's itches that need to be scratched or other children about. Nursery clothes need to be able to get messy, and to be practical.
My highlights include: Potty training children in dungarees with tight jumpers over the top, "special" clothes that "can't get dirty", white linen dresses, white fun-fur coats, and shoes with laces.

Please don't be one of those parents.

ovenbun Thu 12-Dec-13 08:44:28

Xpost smile

ovenbun Thu 12-Dec-13 08:43:59

How about some dark coloured clothes for nursery? Some nice navy tops won't show nearly as many stains smile

MillyStar Thu 12-Dec-13 08:30:16

My dd wears boys navy and blue joggers for nursery and a top, not what I'd usually dress her in but I was sick of the stains

SatinSandals Thu 12-Dec-13 07:22:36

Unless a member of staff hovers over them they will get messy and the hovering is frustrating for the child.

SatinSandals Thu 12-Dec-13 07:21:37

A 2 year old is going to get paint on themselves despite aprons, that is what 2 year olds do!

insancerre Thu 12-Dec-13 07:20:16

They should have little aprons or something for them to wear when they're painting or eating. I'd send her in with something and tell them to put it over her if they're doing anything potentially mess
Yes, because the nursery staff won't have thought about that, will they? hmm
Nursery is for getting messy.
Lower your expectations.

SatinSandals Thu 12-Dec-13 07:16:32

I would say it was a sign of a good nursery! Don't send her in decent stuff. I feel so sorry for little children who have to consider their clothes. Get second hand. If a child comes out clean I would wonder what I was paying for!

Groovee Thu 12-Dec-13 07:12:41

I usually presoak any stained clothes in vanish or ace, then wash in the machine.

Even staff end up with paint and things down us and we have to suck it up too.

Honestly yanbu I hated it too, but learned to live with it, as whatever clothes I sent my kids in they came home ruined. I had nursery clothes in the end, and if we were going somewhere after nursery I changed them before we left.

Jcavanagh Thu 12-Dec-13 06:53:43

No they shouldn't come out dirty at all your paying for them to look after your child that's what they should start doing. It's not hard to check all the aprons on or to put a pair of wellies on them if there outside its there job to keep them clean not dirty.

Sirzy Fri 06-Sep-13 11:24:32

If a child is attached to a piece of clothing even more reason to not let them wear it to nursery.

I can't understand this fuss about children getting dirty and clothes getting stained. It happens (in school and out) its part of being a child!

FreudiansSlipper Fri 06-Sep-13 11:06:16

you can but cheap clothes in all supermarkets

why should children be fussing about not getting messy they are learning and enjoying themselves

ds and his school friends seem to manage fine now they are in school and do not get quite as messy as they once did as their motor skills and awareness has developed

NoComet Fri 06-Sep-13 11:05:08

Mess is one thing, I don't mind food, flour and a bit of mud. Nursery/school clothes get grubby.

It's not teaching the DCs the difference between mess and destruction that makes me angry black and red powder paint and white board pens need treating with respect.

NoComet Fri 06-Sep-13 11:00:46

I used to get dirty looks of preschool nursery for suggesting they bought, and used, painting overalls rather than not using useless aprons.

Small children don't have old clothes, they grow out of them before they are old.

They get attached to Mr happy, pink fairy, red ted. They want to wear them. I sodding well don't want the upset it causes when they are ruined.

And most importantly it teaches a dreadful lazy attitude to getting in a mess, that has to be un-learnt as soon as they are wearing £12 school jumpers.

FreudiansSlipper Fri 06-Sep-13 10:53:58

what does it matter if her clothes are stained she is not a precious little doll to dress up

relax as long as her clothes are clean what is the problem. most children look scruffy at nursery after 5 minutes (well they did at ds nursery)

DanicaJones Fri 06-Sep-13 10:50:56

Unfortunately doing a cold wash now won't help as the stains have already been set by putting them in a warm wash. You need to either soak in cold water before the first wash, then spray with stain remover, then wash, maybe with stain wash powder in too. Or you could spray, then do a cold prewash with extra stain remover in. Washable paints and OJ will come out this way. I'm afraid YABU due to your stain removing techniques. grin

Akray Fri 06-Sep-13 10:39:22

I am OCD about stained /messy clothes and no way could I send any of my DC out in them, but that's just me ~ I like them to always look nice, but I am a champion stain remover, so they can get as messy as they like, no worries!!!

My eldest DD went on an outward bound day and they were told to wear old / messy clothes ~ I had to go and buy her some cheap stuff from Asda, cos she didn't have anything old and messy ~ crazysmile

I totally get where your comming from and dresses are so much easier when potty training, must admit I didn't know about a cold wash but disagree about white, bleach works a treat!
I too have fallen fowl at purple paint though and that was on a designer t shirt ! Don't put it on them I hear you cry..... I wouldn't but you can't control dh's
I do tend to stick to sainsburys / car boots etc but I wouldn't want her to go in with stains either and I hate waste

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