To still not have given up my childhood dream?

(31 Posts)
darlingdaffodils Tue 27-Aug-13 12:13:48

From about the age of 5 my dream was to marry a farmer!

Seeing a muddy land rover or tractor probably does the same for me as Brad Pitt does for others.

I did have two plans - marry a farmer or become a nun. I think being a nun is more likely! I don't even live out in the country!

Everyone has weird childhood dreams though don't they?

darlingdaffodils Wed 28-Aug-13 19:18:59

Oh yes a nun! Not a Sound of Music nun either - didn't like the film. I was thinking a proper strict mostly silent order!

All the information comes from Countryfile I think!

Whojamaflip Wed 28-Aug-13 10:25:00

Dobbie my dh threatened to lack the calving ropes in my hospital bag grin

Dobbiesmum Wed 28-Aug-13 10:20:37

FFS.
Mainly = family
Ated = fainted.

Dobbiesmum Wed 28-Aug-13 10:19:59

It was a mainly joke when I was pg that if it happened too quickly to get me medical help then DH could help me out because of all the calves he's helped to birth grin ironically he's fine sticking his hand inside a cow. He almost anted when he saw DS's head crowning...

thebody Wed 28-Aug-13 10:11:04

my friend is a farmers wife and I picked her up to go out in a Girly night. it was very dark and eventually found her dragging a dead sheep across the yard to the boiler house.

she hailed me to help her.. wtf huge townie here born and bred.

I reluctantly help her lift it up and it spews out some vomit over my nice red heels. 'oh that's what killed it then pneumonia' she said!!

we then threw it in the boiler and she pointed out that that would keep them warm for a few days.

still traumatised!! op a nun too? really all that praying and singing and no makeup or wine? are you mad?

Dobbiesmum Wed 28-Aug-13 10:04:36

I still have my copy of The Children of Willow Farm somewhere, must dig it out..
Where I live is very much a farming community, we're surrounded by them. I suppose we're lucky though, because we're also a commuter village on a main road and train route between to large cities we're not isolated like some places are so people have other things to talk about.
<still boggling about where some people get their ideas about Farmers from, the BBC?>

darlingdaffodils Wed 28-Aug-13 09:21:30

I read the Famous Five books but not the farm books - maybe I should!

There is just something about farms and farming - hard work and tiring but a different sort of tired - not office tired.

Dobbiesmum Wed 28-Aug-13 08:37:05

I married into a lovely enlightened and intelligent farming family, sadly not sitting on millions of pounds of assets though, it would be a huge help to them... Where do people get these nasty stereotypical ideas from?
As much as I would love to do it myself I can see how hard it is, especially now my IL's aren't in the best of health. They don't go on holiday together, haven't for years certain times of the year take a massive toll on their health and my MIL raised her children pretty much single handedly as FIL was up and out early and back and in bed late.

I bet you read ENid Blyton fairy tale versions of farming OP, like Mistletoe Farm and Cherry Tree Farm when you were a kid, or similar. I doubt that real farming is much like them. Maybe you could go on a working holiday to a real farm and see how much you like it then,

Whojamaflip Wed 28-Aug-13 08:16:12

I married a farmer <smug>

its great as long as you don't mind being a single parent for most if the spring and summer, are happy taking holidays in the winter, enjoy the fact that the house is constantly covered in straw/ muck/corn etc and the washing pile has a life (and smell) of its own!

oh and the fact that you will always come last in his affections - the cows/sheep/dog/tractor will always be ahead of you in the pecking order.

but apart from all that, I wouldn't change it for the world grin

LadyMacbethWasMisunderstood Wed 28-Aug-13 08:15:44

Good friends of ours are farmers. Lovely people. Great fun. And he is certainly liberal and enlightened. A thoroughly decent man.

But it's not an easy life. They never go on holiday. Theirs is not a large farm. He does the animals and she runs the holiday let and stables. But recently she has taken on an administrative job as well (employed elsewhere) driven by financial concerns.

But YANBU to have this as your dream. Provided you do something about it.

darlingdaffodils Wed 28-Aug-13 08:03:26

I LOVED Darling Buds of May too!

I am in Yorkshire. Single too - would be a bit weird to be after a farmer if I were already married! I am not much of a catch though - those Young Farmer girls all seem to be the glossy and gorgeous type!

Small holding ..... I have a vegetable patch in the garden!

Wow Squoosh - there are a lot of sites!

Jobscomfortblanket - not fussed about liberal .... squalor might be an issue though!

Doubtfuldaphne Tue 27-Aug-13 14:41:38

I grew up watching the darling buds of may and dreamed of a life in the countryside with a pony in an orchard and loads of kids and home cooked dinners. I spent every day in the local stables mucking out and riding horses. It was lovely but it always felt like I was still just playing at being in this idyllic lifestyle.
I would've loved to have met a farmer and had that life for real. Would I have been as happy as I am now though? My husband is wonderful but he's not a farmer! I do live in the countryside but as I don't drive it's quite isolating. I now dream of living in the city.
The grass always seems greener on the other side.

primallass Tue 27-Aug-13 14:36:12

I really fancied a farmer boy at school. His house was fabulous blush

theboutiquemummy Tue 27-Aug-13 14:35:23

I know a single farmer which part of the country are you in x

Dahlen Tue 27-Aug-13 14:34:21

I wanted to be a nun. Eventually I realised that not believing in God would cause a bit of a problem.

Then I wanted to be a vet, then a journalist, then a spy. Eventually I became an archaeologist. Now I do something completely different again.

I never wanted to marry a farmer. Seems like really, really hard work and I would worry that my farmer would die/leave me at a point where I could be left with nothing and no chance of starting again. If the farming lifestyle was that important to me, I'd learn how to become a farmer myself. Could you start with a small-holding? grin

squoosh Tue 27-Aug-13 14:30:43

Plus you'll never be able to go on holidays or days away from the farm.

JobsComfortBlanket Tue 27-Aug-13 14:26:34

You can forget about marrying a farmer unless you've got a) money or b) land.

Do you know any farmers, OP? They don't tend to be especially - how can I put it - enlightened, liberal types.

Most of the farmers I know are revolting bigots who live in squalor (whilst owning millions of pounds worth of capital assets) and loathe anyone who isn't a farmer.

squoosh Tue 27-Aug-13 14:22:46
squoosh Tue 27-Aug-13 14:20:24

Well if you're single why don't you go for it, go to some of their balls, farmers love a bit of a wild time. I bet they have a dating website, let me see....................

ChippingInNeedsSleepAndCoffee Tue 27-Aug-13 14:18:31

Squoosh - I hope not!!

Waffly grin

inky me either <shudder>

darlingdaffodils - I am all for following your dreams, but you have to ... you know... follow them! You can't just expect a farmer to appear in suburbia begging you to marry him grin I've no idea where you live, what you do for work or anything else - but you need to get yourself out in the country, meeting - you know - farmers! and socialising. There are various 'events' for farmers looking for partners - they aren't all young!

As for being a Nun - umm, I think you might need a calling for that & lusting after farmers would probably make you wholly unsuitable grin

squoosh Tue 27-Aug-13 14:12:03

OP are you married?

darlingdaffodils Tue 27-Aug-13 13:49:14

I don't know if I am just duller than normal people but same farm same job doesn't bother me. Now same office job day in day out with the gossip and drama would be a nightmare!

I like the cold and I like early mornings!

Hmmm Shetland Islands .....

brightnearly Tue 27-Aug-13 13:16:50

Somewhere I heard that there is a dearth of women on the Shetland Islands and the Outer Hebrides...would sheep farming be of interest?

WafflyVersatile Tue 27-Aug-13 13:05:10

but she will have a stone cottage she can't heat and all the cakes for coffee mornings getting fat on the failures and all the cute animals crowing for a feed at 5am and a lovely ruddy-cheeked husband too depressed about tesco to want sex

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