to be pissed off that everyone is saying I will "need to move house"?

(84 Posts)
MortifiedAdams Fri 26-Jul-13 22:32:07

We have just informed the family that we are expecting a second baby. The first things out of, without a doubt, each of their mouths has been about us needing to.move.

We live in a two bed ground floor victorian terraced flat. The rooms are, pardon, fucking huge. The children will be two years apart so will share a room,.and probably the most.of their toys.

So.whh why why do.people need to question it? With actual serious concerned faces? My friend has a newbuild three bed which, while.it is nice, is smaller, square footage wise.

It might be the hormones but I would just like a grin and a "congratulations". FFS my Dad is scpurong the net looking for 'reasonable' three beds....like.we are in some.sort of emergency situation. I love my flat!

Yanbu that's an idiotic thing to say

greenhill Sat 27-Jul-13 07:40:17

Congratulations smile

Do you have high ceilings? You can get loads of amazing storage, when you've got a lot of walls.

Why move? Your location sounds great.

smile

we have 3 kids sharing a tiny bedroom and have done for years. they love it! you'll be fine!

noisytoys Sat 27-Jul-13 08:14:08

YANBU. I live in a city and don't know anyone with DC's who don't share a room. Most people I know with DCs sleep in the living room and their DCs share the bedroom. A bigger place is just beyond everyone's reach.

KoalaFace Sat 27-Jul-13 08:21:51

Congratulations!

I'm pregnant with DC2 and we live in a 2 bed bungalow with big rooms so we'll not be moving. If anyone tries to tell me that we need to I'll be extremely unimpressed!

LoveBeingItsABoy Sat 27-Jul-13 08:40:04

I've got a boy and a girl sharing, tis fine for a couple more years

LoveBeingItsABoy Sat 27-Jul-13 08:40:15

Ps congrats!

meddie Sat 27-Jul-13 08:50:47

My dd and DS shared until they were 9 and 10. (The had the master room as it made more sense to accomodate allt heir toys etc.
I grew up in a 2 up 2 down terrace, me sis and little brother shared the one room until I was 11. That house was tiny. We survived.

carabos Sat 27-Jul-13 09:09:10

My 2 DSs always shared, even in 3 bed house. We kept the third bedroom as another living room so they could have their desk, telly, games consoles friends and what have you in there.

MortifiedAdams Sat 27-Jul-13 09:16:27

We used to use the Master as the Lounge, the Lounge as a dining rm nd the 'little' bedroom was ours. Then when dd came along we moved into thw master, lounge into the real lounge and dd into the back bedroom.

In essence, we could swap rooms, once they start wating sleepovers etx, and the room.is big enough to split into two large rooms if needed.

Rooners Sat 27-Jul-13 09:18:11

We live in a similar flat by the sound of it, but one of the bedrooms isn't huge, it's pretty small (room for a bed and possibly one other thing, but that's about it)

But I have already got two larger children and have just had a baby

I'm now sharing with ds2 and 3, ds1 has his own room

It is getting difficult.

You should be fine though.

MadeOfStarDust Sat 27-Jul-13 09:19:15

We live in a 3 bed - but our 2 DDs decided to keep sharing anyhow...

FoofFighter Sat 27-Jul-13 09:23:46

We live in a one bedroomed cottage and I am about to have a baby, we've also had the pressure from the out-laws to move, but why? Most babies end up sharing the parents room for at least 6 months anyway so what's the point in rushing?
Yes, we accept that by a year old we really will need to get a 2 bedded place but I'm not knocking myself out moving whilst pregnant, sod that!

signorapacino Sat 27-Jul-13 09:30:00

Congratulations thanks Start praying that your second dc is the same sex as your first or everyone's head will explode!!! If its a different sex the will be all "well that's it you'll def have to move now.........." Stick to your guns op and good luck with your pregnancy. X

MrsOakenshield Sat 27-Jul-13 09:30:41

out of interest, are you English OP? The reason I ask is that my Glaswegian mum and all my Glaswegian relatives grew up in/live in huge 3/4 bedrooms flats in Glasgow or Edinburgh and it seems this is much more the norm up there that in England, where we are obsessed with having a house and a garden. And it's very common on the Continent, isn't it, living in flats with no garden? Friend in Paris (English, as a matter of fact) couldn't understand why a garden was neccesary - 'that's what parks are for!')

A friend had a similar problem in that they were in a huge 2 bed flat but wanted to move to a house (girl/boy sharing, older girl age 7 getting a bit fed up of boy's bad sleeping) and found it nearly impossible to find a house with similarly proportioned rooms, or indeed more square footage.

Oh, and congratulations!

MrsOakenshield Sat 27-Jul-13 09:31:40

oh, and I grew up in a 4 bed house but my sister and I shared for years, at one point in bunk beds in the smallest room! Loved it.

ShoeWhore Sat 27-Jul-13 09:33:22

Congratulations OP!

My younger two share and it's fine, lovely in fact. The majority of their friends share too. I can see them wanting their own space in years to come but I think you are a good 10 years off that!

EnlightenedOwl Sat 27-Jul-13 09:33:22

we had five of us plus mum and dad house small 3bed semi bed 3 being boxroom.
two boys in boxroom (just!) three girls in the other bigger bedroom and mum and dad in other largish bedroom
easy!
only concession they made was put an extension on the downstairs to create more living space.

amandine07 Sat 27-Jul-13 09:46:04

Congratulations OP! smile
You are definitely not BU, your flat sounds fabulous, I live in a new build flat and while it's lovely, modern and new there just isn't that much space.

Older properties, especially flat conversions, have the high ceilings and much more floor space.

Sorry your family/parents are reacting like this, they sound like mine. I mentioned us starting a family next year with the OH and my parents were insisting "but you don't own a property yet" and that we need to do things in the "correct" order.
This made me laugh as both my younger siblings had babies before getting married and one was still renting a flat (the horror!)

Well, I'm heading towards 36 and so don't have time til the property market becomes affordable- we need to just get on with it! Having a baby that is...

I've got friends/family members who are waiting to buy a bigger home before trying for baby no. 2 or 3
I can see the sensible side to this but equally, having a baby is not always that easy when you come to trying- I think you may as well just get on with it.

Sorry I am rambling...

As a teen my darling cousin lived with us. Female and same age as me. More like my sister than a cousin.
Enough bedrooms in parental home for one each but we chose to share and have spare room as teen living room. Was fab grin

Bunbaker Sat 27-Jul-13 10:00:38

Congratulations.

I grew up in a 2 bedroom ground floor flat, with large rooms and a huge garden. It was in a naice area as well. My sister is 17 months younger than me and we shared a bedroom. We weren't deprived in any way.

I must admit that I hated sharing with my sister as she was extremely untidy and I am very tidy, but other than that it didn't do me any harm.

I guess that if your children are of different of different sex then it will become important when they are older, but that will be ages away.

"I grew up sharing a room as there are 11 of us and it was fine."

shockGulp

Ah, pff. You stay where you love.
You never need move at all. Partitioning is very flexible and used a lot for a reason.

IfIonlyhadsomesleep Sat 27-Jul-13 10:12:44

The best "oh but we'll have to move now" argument I heard was from someone who felt they'd need an extra bedroom when number three arrived otherwise they would have to share when their occasional overnight visiting mother came. They might want to move, but need was very far away from the truth.
Op big bedroom to share trumps shoebox on your own IMO, although both are fine.

DigestivesAndPhiladelphia Sat 27-Jul-13 10:32:05

Congratulations!

I know just how you feel and it is very annoying. We went from 2 to 4 children (obviously the twins bit was unexpected) in a 3 bed flat. I got totally fed up with being quizzed about where they would all sleep (we have two in each room) and told "You'll need a bigger house" from people who hadn't even said congratulations.

We are planning to move at some point but we're happy as we are for now. I had one friend (who I no longer think of as a friend because of this) who greeted me with : "Where will they all SLEEP?" as soon as I saw her, without a congratulations. She then questioned me about it the next time I saw her (after I had patiently explained the sleeping arrangements). THEN, this friend visited in hospital when I was recovering from a crash c-section... and she started questioning DH in detail about the size each room and how the sleeping arrangements would work!! hmm Even DH thought it was bizarre and most things go over his head.

She is otherwise lovely, but the constant interrogation about bedrooms has really put me off this person. She happens to live in a huge house and I could only feel as though she was judging me in a negative way and that she was unable to hide it.

Anyway, sorry to digress there, it's obviously still a bit of a sore subject grin

Congratulations again!

smokinaces Sat 27-Jul-13 10:45:19

I moved from a three bed to a two bed with two dcs! Their room is bigger, the house is bigger and in a nicer area and at five and six they can share for a long time. This whole needing their own room thing is very modern.

Congratulations!!

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