Bit of background - I split from my abusive exH 3 1/2 years ago. As he isolated me from all but one close friend the main people in my life at that time were my work colleagues who I worked with for a couple of years. We all got on really well and they gave me a lot of support when I left my ex - sadly I had to leave my job as part of that process. Colleagues and I have kept in contact via FB but have only met up once since I left my ex due to me moving to the other side of the country.
I have met a new DP and am getting married soon. As my former colleagues played such a supportive role when I left my ex (plus I genuinely like them) I invited them to the wedding. None of them could make it which I understand as they would've had to pay for a night's accommodation etc but I didn't want to presume on their behalf and not invite them. However I am now having a hen do back in my/their hometown (low key therefore inexpensive) and thought it would be nice to ask them along to that - however I have only had one response so far (which is a no).
It's finally dawned on me that although they were lovely at the time and I considered them as friends, time has moved on and they probably don't want to meet up with me? Or maybe they think I am being grabby and inviting them to get presents or something? Anyway I feel horribly embarrassed now and would just let it fizzle, trouble is my friend who is organising the hen do is asking me to find out definite yes's or no's but I don't know how to push them for a response without making things any more awkward. I don't want to lie to my friend and tell her that everyone has declined when they haven't, I am just too embarrassed to chase them all up. There are only a couple of other people coming to the hen do so far so this would have a big impact on numbers. Any suggestions as to how I can approach this without sounding like I am a begging Billy no mates?
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MrsBrownsGirl · 22/07/2013 19:13
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