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To be scared to go to work.

(61 Posts)
Sleepgrumpydopey Thu 23-May-13 21:22:05

Finish work late on Saturday and I have to walk to a multi storey car park in bham city centre. Aibu to be scared to walk to car alone as I'm Indian and EDL don't really know the difference and think everyone brown is a Muslim.

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Thu 23-May-13 22:26:11

Yes HR should be understanding...not that you should be made to feel like this it's utterly shite that you do. sad

MrsSiba Thu 23-May-13 22:29:23

OP, so sorry you feel this way and I agree, ask someone to walk you to your car. I'm sure there will be plenty of people willling to help.

I am a Muslim married to a revert and we were discussing that we too are worried about reprisals from narrow minded idiots. Genuinely understand how you feel.

sooperdooper Thu 23-May-13 22:30:45

So sorry and sad that you feel scared like this, it's so unfair

It really is a minority of idiots and the vast majority of people are utterly against the EDL or any other racists, I'm so ashamed that people like this exist on our country

I hope your work can offer some support or someone can walk with you

Thinking of you x

ItsallisnowaFeegle Thu 23-May-13 22:42:06

Your post highlights the sad state this country finds itself in. I'm so sorry that you're scared sad

I agree with the escort to/ from your car and YY to using your phone making you more vulnerable. Keep it in your bag and just be extra vigilant.

flowers for you

AlbertoFrog Thu 23-May-13 22:43:05

I have nothing helpful to say but if I were a colleague I would accompany to your car then walk back to wherever I had to go. I wish you didn't have to worry but unfortunately the world we live in is crap.

Good luck and thanks to you.

MammaTJ Thu 23-May-13 22:58:14

Sleepgrumpydopey, I would see you and asume that either you parents or grandparents were gratefully welcomed to this country in times of labour shortage, at leat until you opened your mouth and maybe proved otherwise. And even then it would not mean you were a terrorist, it would mean you were new to this country and willing to join us!!

Quite frankly, those who are anti 'immigration' and think they are 'pure British' need to have a look at the history books and work out where their ancesters come from!! There are very few who really are pure bred British in these isles!!

TonysHardWorkDay Thu 23-May-13 23:47:44

I'm sorry you feel this way. My best friend had abuse shouted at him today. He has the same skin colour as the attackers so is clearly one of 'them.' It disgusts me. In the past I was once berated for 'betraying my country' when out with him. His grandparents were immigrants, I came here when I was 2. How does being white qualify me as more British?

Speak to your colleagues, I'm sure there will be plenty of people happy to ensure you get safely home.

The people who carried out the attack yesterday and the EDL/BNP lot are all the same and all disgust me equally. None of them will ever represent me or any decent person I know.

I enjoyed the thought for the day on R4 this morning, hatred can never be fought with hatred, only our humanity can defeat it.

Sleepgrumpydopey Fri 24-May-13 00:26:15

Thanks for all the messages. Your kindness has really touched me. thanks

namechangeofshame Fri 24-May-13 01:03:59

I have to say I picked dd up from preschool this morning rather than allow mil in her headscarf to do it as she normally does.

Sat worrying now about dh getting home safe.

It's shit.

sad How awful for you OP and others in this situation.

Keep safe.

Fanjango Fri 24-May-13 01:38:50

Can't believe it's coming to this! There is no excuse for racism and bigotry. I despise the EDL. I am white, British, pagan and proud but all I read on fb from some people that I thought should know better has saddened me. The actions of two sadly misguided men should not be the opening of the floodgates for the hatred that has been underlying in some people for years. Sadly some are now showing their true colours. Many "friends" are gone now for me. RIP soldier but let's hope his passing dies not lead to more violence. Look after yourselves to all who don't feel so safe now hmm

Thingymajigs Fri 24-May-13 06:04:12

This has made me cry a little. I can't believe that we live in a time where anyone feels scared to walk around in the UK. I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. x
The EDL will get bored very quickly and go back to whatever other moronic activities they do normally I'm sure.

ClocksInALine Fri 24-May-13 06:14:30

It is absolutely awful the idiots who make people feel like this!

MummaBubba123 Fri 24-May-13 07:11:29

I really feel for you. Even if you think you're just a worrier, speak to your employer and ask whether there is an alternative parking spot for you as you're scared. Don't mention being a worrier. You're scared. It's enough.
Xx

potofpaint Fri 24-May-13 07:23:00

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Dilidali Fri 24-May-13 07:31:18

Sleepgrumpydopey, I am so sorry! It makes me sick to think it has got to this. Holding your hand, stay safe. Don't go to the car on your own and try and park as close to the door as possible. Have 999 ready to just press the button. Let us know how you got on.

gostraighttojail Fri 24-May-13 07:35:35

I used to feel like this. Sometimes to a lesser degree, sometimes to a greater degree. We moved to another part of Northern Europe and it is much much better. It wasn't the only reason we moved but it certainly played a major role. hmm

Zara1984 Fri 24-May-13 07:39:35

Potofpaint hmm

LEMisdisappointed Fri 24-May-13 07:41:27

Potofpaint - did you mean to be so rude such a cunt?

UseHerName Fri 24-May-13 07:53:44

it is shocking that you are beibg made to feel this way

even though i dont think you should have to modify your behaviour, i second what the others say about getting a co worker to walk with you

if there is any co parking is there anyway you could explain to your bosses how you feel?they might accomodate you with a co parkkng space?

wonkylegs Fri 24-May-13 08:03:50

I'm sorry you feel scared. I agree that this tragic incident has brought some nasty bigots out of the woodwork.
When I was younger I worked in a not so great bit of town and if I worked late I was always scared of my vulnerability walking back to the car at night. I used to get one of the security guards to walk with me. It wasn't far and he never minded. He always said that it was better to be safe than sorry. I got a lot of hassle on the job but that walk to the car with him was always fine.

potofpaint Fri 24-May-13 08:10:44

mature lems , im allowed to say i dont feel safe im my country , or is that not allowed now !

whosiwhatsit Fri 24-May-13 08:16:06

I'm so sorry you feel scared. My heart really goes out to people who now have to live in fear of reprisals just because of the colour of their skin. I wish I and a whole parade of mumsnetters could be there to stand by you and walk you to your car on Saturday night! But I do think your work will be happy to help. Please report back on what they say to your request?

magimedi Argentina Fri 24-May-13 08:24:22

So sorry you feel like this. flowers

LEMisdisappointed Fri 24-May-13 08:24:46

Not on this thread, no, its highly inappropriate, besides, the OP IS in her own country. Why would YOU be singled out?

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