These Parents were as useful as a chocolate teapot (MacDonalds related)

(62 Posts)
pigletmania Sat 18-May-13 14:08:27

Went to MacDonalds with dd 6, she has ASD and developmental delay. We went sit down with our food, behind where I was sitting was a mini football pitch set up in lights where a very rowdy group of boys (7/8 years mabey) were pretending to play and shouting and cheering and knocking against my chair.

They must have been in a group tat one boys parents have taken out after football, they were all dressed in football gear of their local club. The host parents did nothing to tell the boys to be quiet and tone down their noise and behaviour. The parents got the boys ice cream and because one was messing about his ice cream spilt everywhere behind me. The parents did not tell this boy off, they said never mind the lady will clean it up and will get you another one shock. my dd was behaving much better, sitting quietly eating.

I eventually told them to be quiet after my chair was bashed for the umpteenth time and the screeching got louder, the parent came to apologise but te screeching and shouting still carried on. We eat up and left. My patience was in tatters, but dd was very calm

Aibu to think the parents should have told the boys to quieten down and to stop messing about, and to not get te boy who spilt his ice cream another for messing about, even if teir not the boys parents. I would no have any qualms about telling a child in my care off if they were misbehaving and being a nuscience

pigletmania Sat 18-May-13 23:12:27

They are lynette knocking my chair ad invading my table save with their footballing antics. I have a 15 month ds so got that to look forward to

pigletmania Sat 18-May-13 23:10:52

Thanks lynette smile

LynetteScavo Sat 18-May-13 23:02:49

Exactly, IcingTheCake, which is why Noorny's post made me so hmm.

Groups of excited boys are mostly very annoying. Therefore, pigletmania, YANBU.

pigletmania Sat 18-May-13 23:02:18

Thanks McNew smile, I guess you do get te self righteous on here at times. I am not having a problem with dd behaviour at te moment, it's not got worse, in fact since starting her Autistic school it's improved

McNewPants2013 Sat 18-May-13 22:53:37

Piglet just ignore them.

pigletmania Sat 18-May-13 22:49:30

Meant varied

pigletmania Sat 18-May-13 22:49:05

Bye I meant. Anything in excess is bad. I home cook and dd gets a Fred and balanced diet

pigletmania Sat 18-May-13 22:48:08

I came here for advice about the rowdy bows not to be torn apart for giving my dd the occasional MacDonalds,

nevergoogle Sat 18-May-13 22:03:02

DS1 in 8 and hates macdonalds food telling me it's disgusting. Shame, cause i like it. grin

IcingTheCake Sat 18-May-13 21:58:20

Sorry, but i think OP just wanted to know if she was being unreasonable to get annoyed at the boys, she probably gets loads of advice on diet, etc. but she didnt come on here to be judged for her food choice?

McNewPants2013 Sat 18-May-13 21:41:42

Noory diet issues are very common in asd children.

My DS who is asd loves McDonald because the food is put in seperate bags. There is very few foods DS will eat. He has spatone sachets to make sure he has vitamins ect.

Carrots and broccoli are the only veg he will eat and only if the carrots are circle cut and not like carrot sticks.

Ok junk food may be bad for them, but when you have a child who doesn't eat any food is better than none ( DS dietician has said this)

LynetteScavo Sat 18-May-13 21:16:25

I did not assume you made statements without having evidence, Noorny. You made your own assumption there. In fact, I suggested you provide the OP with some links.

Noorny's link made clickable

Is that what you meant to link to?

Noorny Sat 18-May-13 20:49:53

@Lynette
Are you not aware junk food exacerbates ASD symptoms? Really Noorny? Maybe you could help the OP out by providing her with some info and links, rather than being condescending.

This is just one of the many articles out there on the subject:

http://www.eric.ed.gov/ERICWebPortal/search/detailmini.jsp?_nfpb=true&_&ERICExtSearch_SearchValue_0=EJ829854&ERICExtSearch_SearchType_0=no&accno=EJ829854

Why do you assume I make statements such as this without evidence based medicine?

Having taught Cambridge and Manchester undergraduates medicine while working as a research associate I think I know what I am talking about.

Unlike you that is.

Shakirasma Sat 18-May-13 18:40:35

Piglet, YANBU

I have been to macdonalds today, it was packed full of families and groups of kids yet none of them were being a nuisance in the way you describe. There is never any excuse for spoiling somebody elses enjoyment of their meal with OTT behaviour.

As for it being suggested that some of these kids may have not been reigned in because of SN, well that is just an insult to parents of children with SN, 95% of whom work very hard to ensure their children get proper behavioural guidance. We do not just use SN as an excuse to let them run riot.

And FTR my son's ASD is absolutely unaffected by diet!

pigletmania Sat 18-May-13 18:23:44

I know lynette I should have known, Sat afternoon MacDs hell on earth. I have been frequenting MacDs now for a lot of years and on weekend too and never had this before. I sound like a bit of a bat. I did tell them nicely to be quiet, and was not rude to the parents or children but I am entitled to secretly feel this way. Dd asd means she is a creature of habit and macD is one of te very few eating places she will go on without having a meltdown.

manicinsomniac Sat 18-May-13 18:21:08

eh? Of course your child behaved better than the boys, she was alone with adults. What a bizarre thread. Her ASD is irrelevant, it was just her and her parents. Any one of those boys would probably have been perfectly well behaved as the only child. But a group of 7/8 year olds excited after football - I wouldn't be expecting much else!

The bumping into your chair was rude though and I would have expected the parents to try and control them.

LynetteScavo Sat 18-May-13 18:17:38

7/8 year old boys + party + McDonalds = raucous hell.

I am a scary old bat who tells other peoples children off (all the children in our road know this) and would have told the boys to calm down. I even told one child to take their feet of the table in Frankie & Benny's at DD's last birthday party. But I can totally see why the parents were letting the boys be loud, and make a mess. I don't think that your DD has ASD has much to do with it.....this situation would have been unpleasant for me, but then I don't expect a pleasant experience when I go to McD's, I am grateful to be able to go somewhere it doesn't matter too much if the DC spill a drink/accidentally splatter ketchup. (And I do like the food!)

Are you not aware junk food exacerbates ASD symptoms? Really Noorny? Maybe you could help the OP out by providing her with some info and links, rather than being condescending.

pigletmania Sat 18-May-13 18:07:21

We do normally drive through but today we were on foot

pigletmania Sat 18-May-13 18:06:19

Noony since dd has started her special school last year her behaviour has really settled down, so much so I take her to rainbows and non specialist dance

pigletmania Sat 18-May-13 18:04:32

Noony an occasional treat is not going to harm. The main thing dd was fine. Exactly McNew, would it be ok to run around knocking people's chairs and screaming and cheering at te local Harvester, no it would not. So why do some of you think that just because it's MacDonalds it's ok to leave your manners at home hmm

Your vulnerable child wasn't upset about this and the parents apologised to you for the bumping. I really don't see what your problems was. It was MAcdonalds. It's always hellish.

ENormaSnob Sat 18-May-13 17:42:25

Yanbu

I wouldn't allow my dc to behave like that.

McNewPants2013 Sat 18-May-13 17:37:34

The only thing I have from McDonald is a coffee but DC like the food and the toy so I take them.

McNewPants2013 Sat 18-May-13 17:34:43

Yanbu, regardless if its McDonalds or a 5* restaurant children shouldn't be disturbing other people eating.

Running around and knocking people's chairs repeatly is not on.

My son has ASD and if he has a meltdown I pack everything up and we go home.

FanjoForTheMammaries Sat 18-May-13 17:30:02

Some of you po faced folk could do with a burger and shake tbh

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