To find the public sniffing of babies' bottoms/nappy changes undignified?

(88 Posts)
gail734 Wed 10-Apr-13 12:41:40

Even though I have one of my own now, I still try to avoid the "lift and sniff" nappy check technique. If I do it, I try to be very subtle about it. It's always made me uncomfortable, don't really know why. Also the public "I don't have to go anywhere to change this really rotten nappy. I'll just do it here while you eat your scone," school of thought. I always go away somewhere, not because my child's nappies are horrid, (they're not, they smell like Angel Delight) but because I think it's more dignified for the baby. Babies deserve some privacy, no? My two SILs do both of these things all the time and I'm silently judgey, but they have six kids between them so maybe IABU?

Beamae Thu 11-Apr-13 11:07:25

Definitely sniff. My MIL whips down their trousers and has a good rummage around, no matter where she is. She has done it on a table in a busy cafe. I was quite shocked. Quick sniff, then off to baby changing.

mrsjay Thu 11-Apr-13 10:41:14

I don't understand how this gorgeous child can make such a hellish stench.

I know right how can it be so bad ,

Agree mrsjay - LO is currently teething, and his dirty nappies make my eyes water when I open them. I don't understand how this gorgeous child can make such a hellish stench.

mrsjay Thu 11-Apr-13 10:36:13

there was a toddler at work yesterday good gawd there was no need to lift and sniff at all she was erm ripe , we had to open the windows she is the sweetest most angelic looking baby i have ever seen how could she smell so bad grin

Lift and sniff normally, but have been known to pull back nappy for a peek.

Always somewhere discreet for a poo-change if possible. But not for a wet one.

lljkk Thu 11-Apr-13 09:36:28

There is no dignified but reasonably convenient way of checking a baby's nappy.

MiaowTheCat Thu 11-Apr-13 09:20:41

Good god I'd never change a baby in Starbucks - that's just rank and disrespectful to everyone else in there (and I don't give a shit if it's breast/formula/fruit shoot/unicorn tears and pixie dust fed) - I'm waiting for the "AIBU to check with the woman changing her baby two tables down from us is breastfeeding cos that'll make the whole thing acceptable" thread... or the "AIBU to be pissed off a formula feeder is changing a nappy on the table across from us" one.

Ask the staff to stick your coffee behind the counter and go do it somewhere less disgusting.

Rank, utterly selfish and just giving parents a bad name - it's not the smell that's the issue - it's the whole excrement somewhere people are eating factor.

NumericalMum Thu 11-Apr-13 08:27:43

I agree with ozzie on the potty thing. If your child needs a potty every 30 seconds he or she is not ready for potty training. Just a thought.

NumericalMum Thu 11-Apr-13 08:27:29

I agree with ozzie on the potty thing. If your child needs a potty every 30 seconds he or she is not ready for potty training. Just a thought.

NumericalMum Thu 11-Apr-13 08:26:23

I have changed my DC in Starbucks. She was particularly good with timing and I had just got a coffee and was about to feed her. The toilets were not in the coffee shop so I would have had to leave coffee, pack up pram, belongings etc and trek to the loos. She was about 2 months old and BF and there were 3 other people in the shop max. I am pretty certain nobody including her cared or noticed.

Is your PFB very young? Do you not go out much?
Oh and by the time my daughter was 2 and I had done 30,000 nappy changes I changed her wherever I liked in my own house

Ozziegirly Thu 11-Apr-13 08:10:44

Well a couple of my friends are potty training and so I have been subjected to their children straining out a crap on a potty placed in the room at our playgroup. One of them has "performance anxiety" and I do feel like saying to the mum "maybe he doesn't like dropping a turd in front of a room full of people?".

Plus, my god, it stinks. So gross.

I do the lift and sniff though on baby DS2, but DS1 goes to the loo in the toilet, even when he was (briefly) using a potty.

BelleEtLaBaby Wed 10-Apr-13 22:52:56

Ah, bollocks. There's supposed to be dignity in parenting?? [shocked]

MrsMook Wed 10-Apr-13 22:47:23

No need to lift and sniff here. My toddler has such a distinctive and pungent brew, you KNOW from the opposite side of the room. Nursery can always identify the brand without an investigation.

5318008 Wed 10-Apr-13 22:46:38

sniffing is better than 'looking with your fingers' innit

LimeLeaffLizard Wed 10-Apr-13 22:36:51

YABU and precious. There is no better way to test.

RatPants Wed 10-Apr-13 21:58:58

I don't think it bothers the babies. grin

Possibly wouldn't do it to a teenager though...

Fakebook Wed 10-Apr-13 21:56:46

I always take a quick sniff whilst pretending to hug and kiss ds. It's not like you sit there and take a deep intake of shit smell and savour the moment. Yabu.

M0naLisa Wed 10-Apr-13 21:54:34

I do the lift and sniff and then change in a baby changing room
If I can.

comelywenchlywoo Wed 10-Apr-13 21:35:59

Changing a pooey nappy near people eating: disgusting!
DBIL once took all the nappy changing paraphernalia from the bathroom TO the living-room and changed the nappy there, where we were eating our take-away on our laps. It was korma.

The lift and sniff is the best only way I know to check if DS has filled or not.

YABU

Time2Nap Wed 10-Apr-13 21:32:37

Oh and out in public places I always use changing facilities smile

Time2Nap Wed 10-Apr-13 21:31:45

I have no problems with the sniff check, some people's kids toilet a lot and you can't always tell without sniff or check!

I used to hate people changing their baby in front of me but now mine is nearly 2 I find myself doing so, but usually when we are around friends with kids. i do tend to get ot of the way with other people, although i find some people dont seem to want you to stop conversation to go and change baby ( i dont think you can win).

I think after changing several a day you just ge the job done and not think bout it.

What I do find disgusting is the fact people don't wash their hands after changing dirty nappies, It might be your baby but it is still shit!

edwardsmum11 Wed 10-Apr-13 21:20:01

I have lifted and sniffd but always change somewhere private when out anywhere but family's houses.

I lift and sniff (for efficiency). Agree about privacy though, particuarlly MIL who changes DS's nappy in the middle of the living room. I don't agree to the point where i'd get off the sofa and do it myself if she offers to do it though (efficient at lazyness too).

MrsRV Wed 10-Apr-13 21:01:58

In the space of 2 weeks I have a. Got a pooey finger from trying to peek in the side and b. made my SIL smell my DD's nappy in a room full of family members as a vile smell seemed to be following me around. Sister in law happily buried her head in my LO's nappy & confirmed no poo but probably a wee. Turned out, the vile smell was some milky sick that had dried into the carpet without us realising.

YABU.
Of course nappies shouldn't be changed where someone else is eating and not for the sake of the baby's privacy grin!

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