I feel a bit bad, ignored the door

(30 Posts)
hairtearing Tue 09-Apr-13 10:21:16

I have Members of my family often like to visit unnanounced during the day.
But today I feel like absolute death, shivering,shaking,snotty nose,bad cough, painful chest and feel very sick and very,very lethargic.
I already have issues due to blood loss/contraception this only makes it worse.
I have the DC , the house is a tip , I look like hell and last thing I want to do is to have to make tea and conversation.
For all I know it could have been something else but I ignored the door blush
am I a bad person?

Patchouli Tue 09-Apr-13 10:23:25

Nope.
It's the chance you take when you call on someone unannounced.

newbiefrugalgal Tue 09-Apr-13 10:24:35

Nope. But would they know if you were at home?
Car outside?
Noise of DC?

CheCazzo Tue 09-Apr-13 10:26:41

The risk you take, when visiting unannounced, is that the door will not be answered. If it was urgent they'd ring. If they were worried you didn't answer because you're lying there dead - well, they'd ring.
Go back to bed, get better and stop worrying about such small stuff.

hairtearing Tue 09-Apr-13 10:28:09

Possibly I didn't think that far, I feel a bit bad they just want to visit granddc but I don't want to be judged for my tip of a house when all i want to do is crawl into a hole.

CheCazzo Tue 09-Apr-13 10:28:46

Then let them ring and make arrangements like other reasonable people do!

kelb6180 Tue 09-Apr-13 10:31:13

I always ignore my door when I can't be bothered lol

And when asked, I say "oh I must have been in the shower"

EyesCrossedLegsAkimbo Tue 09-Apr-13 10:33:15

If they're not the sort of family that would take one look at you and tell you to get to bed and look after the DC while you rest, then you did the right thing.

starfishmummy Tue 09-Apr-13 10:34:38

No yanbu.
There is no law to say you have to answer the door or the phone kf you don't want to, or are unwell

YANBU - I've done before when I've felt really shit.

AnyFucker Tue 09-Apr-13 10:35:39

I never answer the door, and often the phone, if I am not expecting someone/thing

Longdistance Tue 09-Apr-13 10:36:55

I never answer the door, unless I know who it is who has prearranged to come. People know this of me, so know well to call before hand.

Did they not want to take the kids off your hands while you recooperate in bed? Hope you feel better soon.

mrsjay Tue 09-Apr-13 10:38:26

MY door has just gone I didnt answer it I am pmsy not dressed and probably whiff a bit blush
I wasn't expecting anybody if it was important they will call back or if it is urgent they would have phoned me first meh just because somebody knocks doesn't mean you have to answer ever. OP i hope you feel better soon ,

rockinhippy Tue 09-Apr-13 11:02:42

YADNBU - I never open my door unless I know its the postie etc, if people want to visit, they pick up the damn phone & let me know, otherwise they can sod right off are not welcome - consequently, they always ring first wink

Maybe this can be the start of a more assertive you - ask if they visited - be honest that you were in, but feeling ill I not in the mood for visitors & enjoying quiet time with the DCs , finish off with - "it's a pity you didn't ring first, that way I could have warned you, maybe that would be a good idea in future"

Wishing You better soonflowers

hairtearing Tue 09-Apr-13 12:22:02

Thanks for replies,
Yeah I generally ring plus I wouldn't like to be the person who turns up to someone feeling ill making them feel like the need to adopt 'host mode'

Yeah same mrsjay I probably stink too, although in the midst of pee smell potty training hell I smell better in here lol.

They didn't know I was ill, I don't think anyway.

It puts you on edge though like you can't relax in your own home.

oldraver Tue 09-Apr-13 12:26:49

I dont answer the door if I dont want too in my pj's. I even refused to answer the door to someone with a clipboard who looked through my window and saw me after they had knocked....they seemed quite puzzled.

Feminine Tue 09-Apr-13 12:28:32

Given you are poorly, I'll bet they would be grateful to have been kept out.

Although you are never going to be able to ask are you? wink

Hope you feel better very soon!

PelvicFloorClenchReminder Tue 09-Apr-13 12:29:06

Don't feel bad, this is the reason why doors were invented! Hope you feel better soon thanks

hairtearing Tue 09-Apr-13 12:33:08

Thanks I feel like I have the plague or something, (just slightly exaggerating)

wanderings Wed 10-Apr-13 21:20:33

Harry Potter: "Sir, why couldn't we just Apparate directly into your old colleague's house?"

Dumbledore: "Because it would be quite as rude as kicking down the front door. Courtesy dicates that we offer fellow wizards the opportunity of refusing us entry."

(From "Half Blood Prince")

everlong Wed 10-Apr-13 21:26:50

Aw, feel better soon.

I ignore the door sometimes too. If I cba or in my pj's.

My nosy neighbour came round once and knocked, I was hoovering in my dressing he could see me through the window in the hall. I did that shocked ' oh ffs face ' and still didn't answer the door. blush

YANBU.

You don't have to be available all the time.

I rarely answer the door - it's only ever someone trying to get me to change energy supplier, a reformed criminal selling dusters or a Jehovah's witness.

Obviously, if you were expecting someone and didn't answer then that would be very rude but if you weren't expecting company and didn't want any then you it's your prerogative to not answer.

MissFredi Thu 11-Apr-13 13:58:43

YANBU. I don't get many people round but they always let me know (even my grandma texts first) unless its the postman, and I can tell its the postman for his bright orange coat! Anyone else can either go away or deal with "not ready for humans" me. It's not a pretty sight.

IsaacCox Thu 11-Apr-13 14:18:04

YANBU. I only answer the door when I know who it is or if it's the postie. I never answer the phone either unless I know who it is.

Hope you feel better soon flowers

scarletforya Thu 11-Apr-13 15:22:41

Ha! Of course you're not a bad person. I only answer the door to people I know are coming or maybe meter readers if I'm feeling in the mood.

Everyone else can feck off make an appointment like any civilized person would do!

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