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To agree to work tmrw

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pamelat Sat 23-Mar-13 21:34:15

i work part time and have our 2 and 5 year old the other days.

DH contributes the most financially but I pay my portion to mortgage etc

I am significantly over drawn £900.

DH is generous but I like to stand on my own feet and pay my share.

Work asked me to work tmrw for double pay, about £250.

I asked him and he said if I wanted to, so ivagreed

He is now cross with me about it!!!!

The kids are in a gym class in the am so he'll have over an hour to himself, and ds still naps, so just a few solo hours in the afternoon

He thinks I'm being selfish going to work on a Sunday as "we" don't need the money

It's annoyed me but part of me feels guilty leaving our kids "unnecessarily" (in the scheme of things) on a Sunday?

I'm off from Tuesday for 12 days though for Easter holidays and could (selfishly) do with the cash?!!

Apileofballyhoo Sun 24-Mar-13 15:41:51

Very upset for you OP. I can't understand this separate money thing either tbh. If you were working full time would you expect him to pay half the childcare costs? Is he mean with money in general or something? (My DSis works for this reason, otherwise she would have to justify all her expenditure.) I find this kind of attitude really upsetting where a DP doesn't automatically share what they have.

MrsLouisTheroux Sun 24-Mar-13 17:58:05

Sorry, I'm with him.
His solution is to give you the money to clear your OD so that you can spend Sunday together as a family? That's kind not twattish.
If he was moaning because he couldn't go and play football with his mates because you had to go to work I'd think he was a twat.

PurpleStorm Sun 24-Mar-13 18:37:28

So why not offer to give the OP the money when she first suggested working on Sunday, instead of waiting until after she's agreed to work Sunday?

MrsLouisTheroux, I read it as he would give her what she would earn (£250), not clear her OD (£900). And kind would have been offering the money first, not saying 'yes if you want to' then stropping because she chose to work. Of course, had the OP decided against working, that would have given him a family Sunday but not cost him anything. Not really kindness in my book.

MrsLouisTheroux Sun 24-Mar-13 19:50:04

Ok, he's saying something along the lines of 'Don't go to work, I'll give you what you would have earned'.
He's acknowledging the fact that his wife needs to earn money and as he'd prefer to spend the weekend with his family, he's happy to give her this money himself.
How is that twattish?

IMO it's twattish because he tried to make out it was her choice, then got cross with her choice. If he had a preference he should have said so up-front.

I hate when people expect me to be telepathic and divine what they actually want from reading their auras or somesuch; just tell me in plain English, you twat! wink

Parker231 Sun 24-Mar-13 20:27:41

Why is the overdraft your issue - surely it's a joint problem, not just yours ?

redskyatnight Sun 24-Mar-13 20:38:56

I don't like my DH working on Sundays if he doesn't have to.
It's nothing to do with not wanting the DC on my own, it's to do with making the most of family time.

In DH's eyes you are saying I'd rather go to work than spend time with my family.
I'd be pissed off too.

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