to cook one meal and if they don't like it, tough.

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TubGirl Mon 18-Mar-13 17:19:49

For the last 17 years DH has done the cooking. His hours at work have changed do now I have to.

I cannot be arsed with all this chopping and changing.

Dd2 only eats chicken, roast potatoes and chips.

Dd1 is veggie and won't eat potatoes in any form.

Dh likes meat.

I'm veggie. I like one pot lentilly stuff. Nobody else does.

This evening we have cauliflower cheese with roast potatoes and green beans. There is cold chicken for Dd2 and Dh.

Except Dd1 doesn't do potatoes and isn't mad keen on cauliflower.

Bollocks to them all. Picky bastards.

I plan on putting it on the table. If they won't eat it they can bloody well go hungry. Or eat toast. Or something.

ChocsAwayInMyGob Tue 19-Mar-13 18:13:38

I got so sick of pleading with everyone to eat what I cooked and then throwing half of it away.

I did this: I asked my DH and the 2 DCs what their favourite meals were, that they would always eat.

I then did a menu and a shop and every week we eat more or less the same. it's occasionally boring, but everybody gets their favourite at least once or twice a week. When DH and I have a curry we eat after the kids have gone to bed as they don't like it,but that is the only concession I make.

monday- macaroni cheese
Tuesday Shepherds Pie
Weds- Tuna pasta bake
Thurs-homemade soup with bread and cheese
etc etc

So much cheaper and barely any waste.

MrsOakenshield Tue 19-Mar-13 17:42:35

no meat, fish, non-veggie cheese, non-veggie jams etc, honey, sweets. Going to be tricky once she properly starts going to parties and things but certainly at home that's what we do, DH is a pretty strict veggie. Doesn't care what I eat, though he hates the smell of bacon and is unimpressed by cheap nasty battery chicken etc (but so am I), but he is not evangelical in the least. The decision about DD was mine, not his, though of course he was pleased.

And I'm not being sarcastic at all, it genuinely does make me laugh that people cannot conceive of having little meat/fish in their diet, in this day and age.

TheSeniorWrangler Tue 19-Mar-13 12:34:48

if its something we all eat, then we all eat it, but my dcs' are both picky, so i will sometimes cook theirs first then DH and I will eat seperately an hour or so later if we want chinese or cottage pie/roast dinner..etc

But even then, they only get one choice.. and its what i feel like cooking served with a side of eat it or starve.

Dancergirl Tue 19-Mar-13 12:25:13

There's no need for sarcasm mrsoak. That may work for your family but lots of people eat and enjoy meat and wouldn't want to give it up. I cook a fair bit of meat, we probably don't have red meat more than once or twice a week but we eat chicken quite a bit, I make meatballs with lean turkey mince etc. We eat a lot of fish too.

Are you 'proper' veggies ie no fish? Does your dd not eat fish?

FreakoidOrganisoid Tue 19-Mar-13 11:58:06

Dancer yes. DD went through a stage of not wanting to eat fish so we both had chicken or whatever and ds was given the choice of which he wanted to eat. Mostly though if they have fish I just have the veg and a couple of bites of fish to show willing, it's very rare that I am either organised enough or bothered enough to cook some chicken as well.

MrsOakenshield Tue 19-Mar-13 11:57:23

PMSL at the shock of never eating meat, ever! Oh my God, the sky will fall in. Jesus.

DH is veggie so pre-DD we always ate a lot of veggie stuff anyway. When DD came along I made the decision to bring her up veggie as our family meals will always be veggie (I'm in the one-meal-for-all camp). When she's old enough to understand the issues she can then choose to have, for example, meat or fish sarnies, or meat/fish when eating out or at someone else's house which is what I do. But main family meals will be veggie. Why not? Cheaper, healthier, less impact on the environment, and when I do buy meat for me I can afford to buy ethically, which is important to me, I would hate to be in the position of having to buy cheap, horribly farmed meat because that's all my family would eat and we couldn't afford to do otherwise.

For spag bol / shepherd's pie we used canned puy lentils for the 'meat' which works brillaintly (DH hates meat substitute stuff). It really really isn't that difficult, or mind-boggling.

Lancelottie Tue 19-Mar-13 11:55:48

Loves -- one of the many, many problems with feeding Aspie DS1 was that there was nothing he would eat that could be stuck in the freezer and served up later in dollops. Drove me mad!

He is slowly, slowly getting better at trying things. But if he can't stomach something, starving him just doesn't work to 'help' him try it. He just gets (even) thinner.

OP, I feel your frustration! We are now in a more reasonable position where DS will at least eat the meat out of a stew rather than only meat-that-hasn't-touched-anything-else.
Meanwhile, would-be veggie DD eats the stew without the meaty bits confused; and NT DS2 scoffs the lot except for picking out every bloody onion.

LovesBeingWokenEveryNight Tue 19-Mar-13 11:43:49

Depends how bothered you are. If it was that bad id do bulk cooking and freeze portions to dish out as and when.

Dancergirl Tue 19-Mar-13 11:35:21

freak out of interest, if your dc didn't like fish either, would you also let them eat chicken?

ChairmanWow Tue 19-Mar-13 11:26:36

Loving the shock at not having meat cooked for you, ever!

I don't eat beasties smile and I won't cook beasties either. Not being awkward, I just hate the feel and smell of it If DH wants to cook meat for himself and DS he knows where the kitchen is, but he likes my food and has yet to bother. They somehow manage to cope with just eating meat outside the house, though even then DS, who is 2, doesn't really like it that much.

As for shepherds pie, spag Bol etc veggie mince is a good substitute - again, no complaints from DH, and both those meals are among DS's faves.

Lancelottie Tue 19-Mar-13 11:06:19

Well, if dinner has to suit two veggies, one general carnivore and an Aspie, I'd say that the minimum you could get away with is two meals.

When we go to visit veggie friends there is often nothing at all that DS1 can/will eat except the bread.

fuzzpig Tue 19-Mar-13 10:52:25

Do you think your DH is partly to blame for providing variations for so long? (Not including the AS issues)

We are generally a one meal house too, but ATM just go for stuff we know the DCs will eat. Some nights DH and I eat later (generally eat at 5 as DCs' bedtime is 7) and we will save the more adventurous stuff for those evenings.

LadyClariceCannockMonty Tue 19-Mar-13 10:07:22

grin 'beasties'. Cute!

Lancelottie Tue 19-Mar-13 09:48:02

Beasties?? Roasties (DYAC)

Lancelottie Tue 19-Mar-13 09:47:50

Well, as they say, Oblomov, 'If you've met one child with Asperger's, you've met one child with Asperger's.'

On the other hand, OP, your DD2 sounds a perfect match food-wise for my Aspie DS1. can we get them together though he might steal her chicken?

Sensory issues here too, making it more 'can't eat' than 'won't eat'. I still bitterly remember the battle we had to get DS1 to eat potatoes in the first place, by starting with a single crisp and moving on gently through salted chips to overdone beasties...

Cat98 Tue 19-Mar-13 09:40:28

Dancer girl - I'd alternate. On days where I was cooking a meat dish I'd make 2 meals but the veggie meal would be as close to the meat meal as poss so minimising preparing different things.

FreakoidOrganisoid Tue 19-Mar-13 09:39:35

I only cook one meal, though I do avoid stuff I know they hate. I don't like fish so if I cook them fish I either just have veg or do myself some chicken or something. If I do them paella I add the seafood to theirs at the end.

DD doesn't like potatoes or cabbage, she still gets given them but is only expected to eat a tiny bit of them.

DS doesn't like beetroot, as long as he tries a bit he doesnt have to eat much.

I sometimes apply this rule to myself too by forcing myself to try a bit of their fish grin

LadyClariceCannockMonty Tue 19-Mar-13 09:39:27

No, I said I might alternate cooking veggie with cooking meals with a few separate elements, including meat, so people could have meat if they wanted. Plus perhaps anyone who wasn't veggie could buy or ask for meat products to be bought for them to eat as snacks or if they were eating separately. And obviously people would eat whatever they wanted away from the house.

Although I don't think no meat ever is that horrifying a prospect really.

Dancergirl Tue 19-Mar-13 09:33:30

But things like shepherds pie, spaghetti Bol, meatballs, casseroles etc... Its not so easy is it? Surely that would involve making a second meal?

livinginwonderland Tue 19-Mar-13 09:30:46

To people who only cook one meal, what would you do if someone was veggie?

you can leave meat out of most dishes - take out a portion to cook seperately and add meat to the rest.

Dancergirl Tue 19-Mar-13 09:30:32

What every day? So no meat at all? Ever?

LadyClariceCannockMonty Tue 19-Mar-13 09:26:12

Dancer, I'd cook veggie – we eat a lot of meat-free stuff in our house despite no one being vegetarian.

Or I'd alternate between making inviting the veggie person to cook for everyone if it was appropriate e.g. an older DC or DP, and making 'picky' meals with things in separate dishes – salads, pasta/couscous, cheese, meat or fish for those who wanted it.

Dancergirl Tue 19-Mar-13 09:22:08

To people who only cook one meal, what would you do if someone was veggie?

We all eat different stuff in our house as none of us like the same foods.

I am always on a diet
DH is a very plain eater
DS is very fussy and yes, I do pander to him

I am in the kitchen anyway doing my dinner so it doesn't bother me in the slightest. I have no desire to make DS something I know he won't eat - the wrinkled nose drives me mad!!

Horses for courses smile

Oblomov Tue 19-Mar-13 09:07:23

Op, there are many many threads , people who have fusy eaters. I am sure it is not an easy road. But these people atleast try. Don't you have to try somethign 10 times, or something, before the body gets used to it? something like that.
Ds1 is aspergers and eats everything but salad. So, whilst I appreciate that your dd has AS too, lets not blame that for everything.
The fact your dd only eats chicken and 2 forms of potaotes, is nothing short of preposterous, ridiculous. I mean have you herad yourself say that? It's mad.
You really must try to establish variety.
I bet its hard. But this is crazy. Surely, you must do somethign here.

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