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AIBU to tell people off who park in parent & child spaces but have no children with them?

(558 Posts)
Ameybee Thu 28-Feb-13 15:47:28

This does my head in when I'm struggling to get 2 kids out the car in a normal space yet some idiot without kids is parked in the child space!!

I told a lady off today! I said 'do you know this is a parent & child space?' She said 'yeah' I replied 'so you're just being inconsiderate then?' She thought about it then made up some bullshit about her child being 'down there, in that shop!!' - she had just driven in!!! Clearly lying. So, would you say something to someone!???

CheeseandPickledOnion Mon 11-Mar-13 15:29:23

Allthewellies is right, its the entitlement which is frustrating. People managed for years without them. You don't need them. It is not a lifelong entitlement.

Over is still clearly frustrated that I dared to park in one for 2 minutes while accessing the cash point. It's that level of entitlement that pisses me off.

I would never usually use one. I wouldn't use one with my 7 yr old DSS.

But it's not a crime if I did. If every other single car park space was taken, should I have to turn around and go home and not shop because there is only a P&C space left?

MrsFruitcake Mon 04-Mar-13 16:07:57

I used to be bothered about this sort of thing but now I just let it wash over me. I've come to the conclusion that most people are idiots with no manners and only a thought for themselves. Sad, but true.

Pobblewhohasnotoes Mon 04-Mar-13 15:53:51

atthewelles Mon 04-Mar-13 14:00:26
I think the point people are making, though, Pobble, is that while extra wide spaces may be required by parents, lobbying to also have them at the door of the supermarket thereby making those spaces inaccessible to other shoppers who might have an equally valid reason for wanting to park there, is a tiny bit selfish

I do see your point. P&c spaces don't need to be at the store entrance, it's just a nice thing if they are. If I go to ikea the p&c spaces are about halfway up the carpark. Hence probably why you're more likely to get one. Lobbying so that the spaces are at the front is extreme, I agree that other people less mobile need spaces at the front of the shop.

I use them for the space to get DS out, like I said. Else I have to put the pram behind the car which isn't as safe. I get annoyed with anyone using a disabled space without a blue badge too, it's all purely a lack of consideration for anyone other than yourself. People should be less selfish, really.

There is a picture on my local FB page of a police van in a parent and child space <<throws cat among pigeons>>

Well, they do say that the policemen are getting younger, Indith! grin

MrsDeVere Mon 04-Mar-13 14:16:19

indith I once went an bollocked a van full of police who were parked across three blue badge spaces because they were using the cashpoint.

DD thought it was hilarious.

atthewelles Mon 04-Mar-13 14:00:26

I think the point people are making, though, Pobble, is that while extra wide spaces may be required by parents, lobbying to also have them at the door of the supermarket thereby making those spaces inaccessible to other shoppers who might have an equally valid reason for wanting to park there, is a tiny bit selfish.

Pobblewhohasnotoes Mon 04-Mar-13 13:49:13

I like p&c spaces purely because it's easier to get DS out the car. It's not easy in a normal space if someone has parked too close and you can't get the door open. So if one is free, then great.

Parking in them if you don't have a child is surely just inconsiderate. If I didn't have DS with me I'd park elsewhere.

And for all these people saying, well why not just park at the end of the car park where it's empty. Well, why don't you do that. Surely by parking in a p&c space when you don't need one is just lazy, and selfish.

Indith Mon 04-Mar-13 13:42:38

There is a picture on my local FB page of a police van in a parent and child space <<throws cat among pigeons>>

atthewelles Mon 04-Mar-13 13:10:11

Louis I think you are taking these spaces waaay too seriously.

Emilythornesbff Mon 04-Mar-13 13:00:39

Magratofstolat. I envy your approach. Not caring what ppl think must be liberating. My problem is I care too much about this so avoid confrontation unless it's necessary to protect my dc. Mu dh is very assertive. I once asked him how he manage sit and his words were "because I'm not interested in what they think, just that I'm right" envy

luanmahi Mon 04-Mar-13 12:18:14

Only if it was the last one. It does annoy me as I never parked in one before having children and also don't park in them if I don't have baby with me. But there are plenty of things that annoy me about other people's driving / parking and I'd literally never be able to leave the house if I let them all get to me. Unless it causes an accident, just let yourself feel quietly superior to the other person knowing that you would never be so inconsiderate and get on with your day. smile

I think it's unlikely anyone (sane would deny you that).

I came out of my midwife appointment at 40 weeks with dd & there was a range rover either side of my car. It was snowing & I couldn't get in at all. I considered the boot as an access route!

The receptionists shouted out the registration numbers but everyone sat tight. V annoying. I was there for an extra 45 minutes!!!

lannyshrops Mon 04-Mar-13 11:59:28

I couldn't get into my car the other day due to 39 week bump and inconsiderate parking of person who parked next to me after I had left the car. I only have. Little car and I was parked nicely in the space. I Had to get in on the passenger side and climb over....probably looked a right idiot! Would I be allowed to use P&C space yet? smile

MagratOfStolat Mon 04-Mar-13 09:16:33

I confront people, who will (when they realize I'm as stubborn as a fucking mule and about as immovable as a mountain when it comes to my opinion of right and wrong) eventually move.

I had a brilliant Mexican Stand-off with a woman in a sports car at one point. My DP tried to pull into a P&C space and she tried to nip in before us. She couldn't get in without us moving, and we couldn't get in without her moving. So I got out of the car and asked rather sweetly where her child was, and whether she had lost them in a backseat vortex portal through time and space.

She turned purple with rage and screamed all kinds of profanity at me. But eventually moved. They will all move if you devote the time to your cause. [evil grin]

Honestly though? It's because I'm a stickler for things like that. It's like when people try to pull a full trolley into the "Ten Items Or Less" queue. I will always say something. Because quite frankly I don't give a stuff what people think of me, it's just manners to follow the same courtesies as everyone else follows.

whyno Mon 04-Mar-13 09:01:46

Yanbu totally agree

MorrisZapp Mon 04-Mar-13 08:43:28

Of course YANBU. In real life nobody would even debate that. Only on MN do you get opinions like these

WestieMamma Mon 04-Mar-13 08:35:49

Yes I didn't know for certain the lady wasn't disabled (however there were free disabled spaces) or if her guinea pig had just died, etc etc but she said nothing of the sort so high probability she's just inconsiderate!

No sorry, you're wrong on that. Her saying nothing of the sort only means there's a high probability that she felt she didn't have to justify herself to you. I get challenged by busybodies regularly over my parking. I don't even acknowledge their existence when they speak.

Babybeesmama Sun 03-Mar-13 20:10:00

Can we get it to 1000 so I stop getting lashed for starting it?? grin

539 > 540 now. I like this game!

Babybeesmama Sun 03-Mar-13 19:59:16

538 after you posted grin

andubelievedthat Sun 03-Mar-13 19:34:59

537 posts ! re parking !

Babybeesmama Sun 03-Mar-13 19:26:33

SDTG you speak sense! Never once have I said in this thread I think I can't shop without them and the way people are going on you'd think id matched round the carpark with her head on a stick!

They may be a 'luxury' that still doesn't mean its ok to take advantage If you don't need them, its only about common courtesy!

I'm shocked that this thread has gotten quite aggressive in parts, its not hard to state your opinion without swearing or being rude. There are lots of things that are similar - its not illegal to go through the 'baskets only' till at the supermarket but if I was in front of you with a trolley piled high I'm sure you'd think ooh she's a bit inconsiderate! And I wouldn't do it because it is inconsiderate and that's all I mean! Yes I didn't know for certain the lady wasn't disabled (however there were free disabled spaces) or if her guinea pig had just died, etc etc but she said nothing of the sort so high probability she's just inconsiderate!

NayFindus Sun 03-Mar-13 19:17:47

I told MIL about this thread and she thoroughly agreed with the posters that say P&C are a luxury and unnecessary and in her day they didn't have them and coped much better thank you very much. So when I gave her a lift to Tesco today I dropped her off at the edge of the car park. The really, really HUGE CAR PARK.

She was a little bit confused that I didn't drop her at the front door. 'Oh but it's easier for me to exit the car park from here', which was completely true.

She's not talking to me anymore. I can't stop smiling grin

MrsDeVere Sun 03-Mar-13 19:06:10

Yes it is. They are nice.
But they seem to have had a detrimental affect on people who have grown up with them.
So many feel entitled to them and they are most definitely seen on a par with blue badge spaces.

That is why I don't like them. Because of how people behave about them.

An its getting worse.

Emilythornesbff Sun 03-Mar-13 18:59:14

SDTG. Agree.

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