Me:
single parent with sole responsibility for dd, house, garden, dog, shopping, meals, bills, etc
working (albeit in a job with completely flexible hours)
volunteer several hours a week
Her:
Married
Both she and her dh stay home, and are effectively retired (don't work by choice)
No children, no pets, no commitments outside the home
Hobbies: cooking and walking group (2x per week with friends)
I spend my days juggling various obligations, and have 'windows' of time when I am free to talk and give her my undivided attention (vs multi-tasking - i.e., calling her while I walk the supermarket aisles). But, she is almost never able to talk, and the reasons are usually ludicrous/laughable: 'I'm folding laundry, can I ring you back' or 'I'm cleaning up from lunch can I ring you back' or 'I'm putting away the shopping, let me ring you back' or 'I'm in the garden, and need to ring you in a few minutes'.
I absolutely do not expect she should always be available when I call. But, I make time to speak to her and frankly find it insulting that her laundry/dishes/plants, etc take priority. She is completely focused on whatever she is doing, and it can never wait.
To be fair, she always does ring back - but by that time, my 'window of time' has closed, and i am often unavailable (in a meeting, collecting dd from school, on a conference call, etc), and we play phone tag endlessly.
So, go ahead and tell me IABU. Or is she? Btw, her solution is that we pre-arrange times to talk so she can plan for it in her day.
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
AIBU?
To be aggravated that my friend can never talk when I ring, and always has to ring me back?
43 replies
Earlybird · 24/02/2013 19:07
OP posts:
Don’t want to miss threads like this?
Weekly
Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!
Log in to update your newsletter preferences.
You've subscribed!
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.