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To be thoroughly pissed off about extra additions to ski holiday and to get my clip board out?

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Beachcomber Wed 20-Feb-13 09:01:24

Will try to keep this short. We are lucky enough to be going skiing for 6 days next week. We live in France and will drive to resort, we have our own gear so no ski hire. We are very very lucky in that an acquaintance gives us mates rates on an apartment (half the normal price). All this means that we can afford to go skiing. We still save up for this though in order to pay for our lift passes and lessons for the children - it is a special treat.

DH has invited a friend and his girlfriend to join us for 3 out of the 6 days (he checked with me first and I was perfectly happy with the idea as it is fun to do this sort of thing with other people). They were pleased to come along. However it now turns out that they will be bringing two children with them (the girlfriend's from a previous relationship), when we invited them, the understanding was that the children were with their father that week.

I am really not keen on this happening at all. It means the apartment will be full to bursting (someone will be sleeping on pull out sofa in living room, the only small bedroom will need to have 4 people in it and two people will have to sleep in bunks in the hall). French ski apartments are tiny and there is never enough space to store/dry ski things, and there will be only one combined shower-room with the toilet in it for 8 people. We are self-catering so going to have to organise meals for 4 adults and 4 children around a table that only sits 6 at a squeeze.

Also the two children who now appear to be coming are of the noisy, jump on sofas, talk back to their mum (and others) type. Last time we spent time with them she got pretty frazzled. I feel sorry for them all, she is exhausted, she works full time and a single mum with young children who are obviously finding the upheaval of their parents divorce really hard. That doesn't mean I want to spend 3 days squeezed into a small apartment/going skiing with them though. Even worse, the mum is a beginner skier so I'm not too sure who is going to be in charge of her kids on the slopes as they ski better than she does and I can't see them being content to keep their mum happy on green runs.

AIBU to want to set some ground rules with everybody before we go? Such as each family is responsible for their kids and only their own and can we please not have the blokes off doing the black runs whilst the mums take kids to the toilet/sort lunch for them/sort out another change of dry gloves/drop them off and pick them up from lessons, etc? I also want us to have some idea of what we are going to eat in the evening and to have discussed who is sleeping where before we arrive. Really, I would prefer this not to be happening like this but we are just going to have to get on with it now.

TheDoctrineOfSciAndNatureClub Tue 26-Feb-13 23:58:39

Poor you - when do they go?

MyHeadWasInTheSandNowNot Wed 27-Feb-13 00:30:49

Oh good god - tell me you have wine at least??

Poor DD - I hope none of the rest of you get it!

If they aren't skiing, DH is laid up and DD is ill - why the hell has it not occured to them to leave? They aren't under any illusion that they are 'helping' by staying in or staying longer are they shock

BuiltForComfort Wed 27-Feb-13 12:46:46

Good grief, so if they are hardly skiing where are they all day? I am imagining 8 of you, DH with his leg up, DD1 with tummy bug having to occupy a tiny skiing apartment for the best part of every day! They must be due to leave soon surely? Commiserations on your bad luck.

Beachcomber Wed 27-Feb-13 20:37:14

thanks again for lovely mners and supportive posts. guests left after lunch today. they made noises about staying but i wasnt having any of it. have no idea now why they came. i can only think that they thought we would help with their kids and when that was clearly not possible due to dhs knee they didnt really know what to do.

live and learn is what i have taken from this trip.

Dubjackeen Mexico Wed 27-Feb-13 20:50:45

Poor you,what a rotten thing to happen. Hope your dd and dh feel better soon. Put your feet up and have a nice glass of wine tonight. Hope you enjoy rest of holiday. smile

MyHeadWasInTheSandNowNot Wed 27-Feb-13 21:33:48

Well done you!!

Live & learn, live and learn grin learn not to invite people on a family holiday in a ridiculously small french appartment & that's just for starters!!

fallon8 Wed 27-Feb-13 22:16:27

Stay home and send the others off...plus you don't really need to explain why you can afford to go skiing for six days,,it's your dosh

pluCaChange Wed 27-Feb-13 23:14:36

Oh, dear, what a crush of inconsiderate idiots, at home and "abroad"! Hope your DH mends soon. Sadly, it reflects very well on him that his injury was.w orse for trying to protect his DD! sad

"The rain, it raineth on the just
And also on the unjust fella,
But chiefly on the just, because
The unjust steals the just's umbrella!"

Sorry to hear your DH has been injured.

Hope your DDs get their confidence back.

GingerBlondecat Thu 28-Feb-13 05:18:00

Beachcomber Wed 27-Feb-13 20:37:14
thanks again for lovely mners and supportive posts. guests left after lunch today. they made noises about staying but i wasnt having any of it. have no idea now why they came. i can only think that they thought we would help with their kids and when that was clearly not possible due to dhs knee they didnt really know what to do.
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They don't listen too well, do they. Or, they didn't beleive what they heard......... when your DH set out the rules and said NO to extra days.
bloody Cheek of them.
((((((((Hugs)))

clicketyclick66 Thu 28-Feb-13 05:47:21

I've only just seen this thread now. I'm sorry for what happened your poor dh and dd, I hope they will be better soon. And I hope you relax and enjoy the rest of your holiday.

Beachcomber Fri 01-Mar-13 19:07:47

had a lovely day skiing with the girls. they have got their confidence back and were ace. really proud of them. am now enjoying wine

thanks again to everyone who was so kind on this thread!

HollaAtMeBaby Fri 01-Mar-13 20:23:28

Glad you have survived the visit and that 3/4 of you are enjoying the slopes... hope DH's injury heals soon.

exoticfruits Fri 01-Mar-13 22:06:11

Confidence is the important thing- glad you all enjoying it, except your poor DH who hopefully will be fit for the slopes next year.

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