Aibu to be upset by this?(102 Posts)
I was out with my dh today, we were on our way to the shopping precinct, when i broached a conversation about holidays, and that "i would like to experience the world", he took this as a meaning to talk about threesomes, when i said don't be silly, he got really moody about the fact that i didn't mean sexual experience. Kept nagging that "experiencing the world" means experiences sexually. I told him there will be no threesome ever, as i couldn't handle seeing him have sex with another woman. He told me i'm "closed off" sexually, all because of this conversation!
I'm by no means "closed off" at all, i have even had an experience with another woman in my late teens and have tried many things with my dh, such as bondage, foods, all fresco sex, all sorts really so i'm quite pissed of he has said this to me and took my words as an excuse to bring up having a threesome (this isn't the first time he has bought it up)
I said if he wants a threesome with me & a woman then the only way i would agree to it would be for it to be a foursome with a man for my needs too, i said this to shock him. Well it did he got very angry and said i'm being unfair & selfish
Anyway we get to the precinct and enter a clothing store, in here he starts ranting on about me being "closed off" again, and that i don't partake in watching porn with him, i don't want to it makes me envious that he looks at the glamorous women on it and it isn't for me! Then he went on about how i hardly let him relieve himself on my breasts
Bare in mind this was in a store full of people, i felt very embarrased, especially as i was pushing my 2yo dd in her pram too!
Not only did he make me feel like shit by doing all that, he then pointed out some high heeled sneakers and said i should buy them as i'd look good in them. When i said they are not my thing, he started ranting how i don't wear nice shoes.
Got home more ranting about how he wants to use our flat screen tv to play xbox, although he has his own tv in the corner. I said yes after my soaps, and he said i control the tv
All this shit for a man who was a virgin when i met him, still is to my knowledge, who hasn't bathed for 4 days, shaved and wears trackie bottoms & hoodies 24/7.
So pissed off, its unbelievable, and to top it off when i told him how i feel he just shrugged his shoulders and said "i aint done nuthin"
Yesterday i wanted to treat myself so we went out, i gave him £30 towards a new xbox game and said i'd be getting something nice with my cash.
He asked to borrow another £30 off me so i said yes thinking he was going to give it back.
He didn't he bought me sexy underwear with the whole lot, which left me with no money.
So he got games and got a sexy woman dressed up
Sorry that was long!
Aibu to be upset, its all about him?
Yes he has finally had a bath at long last!
And when it's my feelings at stake, jokes about Jeremy Kyle do not help.
This was the first time he has mentioned a threesome & i have blatantly told him that i will never be partaking in one.
I have told him, if he wants to experience others, he can leave and for a person that has only slept with one woman he has a cheek.
And i also told him if anyone will be seeking variety it will be me, seeming as i have a few notches on my bedpost where he doesn't.
Told him it aint my fault his mother held him back when he was younger so he can't blame me that he didn't get experience when he could.
From now on i'm regaining my trousers in our relationship that i seem to have lost.
And i'm well and truly putting my foot down, a family is at stake here, we have 4 dc.
From now on if he doesn't bath, i'm leading him to it.
If i want him to dress up for me, he is going to.
And he will be doing more housework.
If he wants variety, he can make the effort to try new things with ME and i mean run-of-the mill things.
Hope it works out OP. At least you have been clear about what you want so there's no scope for confusion.
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