To ask my DM for the benefit of her tesco vouchers in exchange for cash?

[bunchamunchycrunchycarrots]

I've only just realised how much money I can save by exchanging tesco vouchers for tickets/vouchers for various places/theme parks. I don't personally have that many vouchers to exchange - atm, I have a total of 92 points, so they aren't worth exchanging. I mentioned this to my DM earlier, asking if I could give her the £5 equivalent of her vouchers, for her to apply for vouchers/tickets for theme parks for me & DD to have for the various holidays over the year (we have half term break in just over a week, a week in easter, and almost 2 weeks in the summer). I'm skint like most other people and saving a small fortune on these tickets via my DM's club card vouchers would be a god send.

She's said no, because she gets her vouchers added to her Tesco C/card, which she uses at the end of the year for xmas shopping.

I'm a bit as I'm not asking for her vouchers without giving her the equivalent amount in cash. I'm just looking to get the benefit of the squillions of vouchers she gets - my dad drives a lot as part of his job, and gets a shed load of vouchers via his petrol costs (£100 p/w at a minimum) which he gives to my DM/uses her club card account. She also has her own shoping etc.

I know she doesn't have to do it, she's perfectly entitled to say no, but I'm as to her reasons as she can easily take the equivalent amount of cash from me and save that instead, for xmas shopping. She's not missing out, just not having her vouchers all stored on her Tesco C/card.

So, AIBU to a) ask in the 1st place and b) be a bit miffed she's said no?

[gordyslovesheep]

why not spend the cash on tickets?

[backwardpossom]

YABU - they're not transferable between people and your name and clubcard numbers are on the vouchers they sent out. IF you were asked to prove who you were (unlikely, but technically could happen), you'd lose out as the vouchers would be void.

[OutragedFromLeeds]

gordy because the tickets will be double or four times the cost in cash.

Maybe she uses the vouchers as part of clubcard exchange at christmas, where they are worth 4 times what they would be worth in cash. Is that what she means?

[Sirzy]

I would imagine she doubles up her vouchers at Christmas to save money? Why should you get the beneift of her points not her?

No problem with asking but YABU to be miffed.

[MissyMooandherBeaverofSteel]

She maybe has it set up so she gets the vouchers at xmas. Or doubles the points to buy presents.

[gordyslovesheep]

well then yes yabu is she can use them to double or quadruple their value at Christmas then you are not really offering her their value

[frasersmummy]

yanbu.. I do the same with my dad.. we pay him face value and then trade them for days out vouchers

I wondering if your dm is thinking if you give her money now she will spend it long before xmas .. perhaps you could suggest you will give her the money close to xmas so she has it when she needs it

[bunchamunchycrunchycarrots]

Ah I didn't realise that, didn't know the value was increased at xmas. Fair enough, IABU.

[wanderingcloud]

YABU.

You can ask but she has every right to say no and you shouldn't hold a grudge over it. It doesn't matter what she's using them for and what you think about it, they're her clubcard points!

[OutragedFromLeeds]

that's the shortest AIBU in history!

[MrsKeithRichards]

Yabu. I do the same as your dm, I don't get vouchers throughout the year, I get them all at once in November then double them up on toys.

Even if your mum only used them to get a bottle of wine every few months they are hers to do with as she pleases. You sound very entitled, your mum is probably like ffs can I not even collect clubcard points without her wanting a piece of the action.

[OutragedFromLeeds]

MrsKeith she's already said she was BU, she didn't know about clubcard exchange.

You do get a point for 'you sound very entitled' on mumsnet bingo though op so not all bad!

[bunchamunchycrunchycarrots]

I was hoping for grabby and entitled...

[MrsKeithRichards]

Quite granny, but more entitled I'd say.

[elizaregina]

It depends op.

For me - if I am relatively comfortable and my DD has DC and is working hard and struggling in these straightened times and wanted my vouchers I would happily see vouchers as a way of her and GC getting nice days out.

vouchers are a bonus - i would still need to shop.


if your mum and dad are not on easy street - and do need to save - ( thier business i know) then yabu.

my DF lives alone and wouldnt faff about with vouchers etc, he collects points for us - not many - but another friend does - and we use tescoe occasionally....this quarter we got £8 in vouchers. The people that do this are people who wouldnt redeem the points themselves as a) too much hassle b) they would be collecting for years to get anything they would think worth it.

what does your dad say - you could issue him with a card for your account and he could alternate perhaps?