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To be upset at being called a selfish cunt at a concert?

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TheDarkSideOfTheSpoon Sun 27-Jan-13 10:17:44

Just got back from a concert in town and although it was fantastic it was spoiled for us a bit. I'm sure IANBU, but perhaps need some perspective.

Friend and I had seats at the end of a row, in the back corner of the arena so looking diagonally towards the stage, next to us was a woman perhaps in her late 70s/early 80s which was a bit surprising, we'd expected more to be with our own age group but other than being mildly surprised we didn't give it a second thought.

Half way through the concert, friend and I are happily stood up dancing and cheering like the majority of people there and a woman leans over from a few seats above & behind us and yells "you do know you two are the only ones stood up in this section don't you, why don't you sit down so other people can see" in a very aggressive tone. We said we're sorry but this is a music concert, strange as it is that this particular section seems to be filled with boring old farts people not wanting to dance actually 95% of the arena are on their feet. She yelled again that this poor woman next to us couldn't see and we ended up having a row where we explained our reasons for standing and she called us various names and eventually left. We felt a bit uneasy then but not sure what to do, our enjoyment would be spoiled by having to stop dancing/waving/cheering but of course not wanting the lady next to us to have her night spoiled either. We offered her our aisle seat to sit in so she would be in front of us and our standing wouldn't get in her way but she turned it down so we tried to get over the row and enjoy ourselves.

Ten minutes later the other woman comes back, on her way to the toilet passed behind us and yelled "I hope you're having a good time you selfish pair of cunts!" before stomping off. We were shock and tbh a bit upset. Didn't retaliate, so hopefully retained the mythical moral high ground but still it took away from an otherwise good night.

What would you have done? We paid the same as everyone else, we went there looking forward to dancing and jumping about as is usual at concerts, almost everyone else was, if the older lady couldn't stand then there were disabled seats available but she had booked a standard seat. We did offer her ours but she turned it down and from what we could see everyone else could have stood up if they chose. We weren't allowed to move and stand anywhere else. AIBU?

MrsHoarder Tue 29-Jan-13 22:48:29

Oh my. Those dungarees.

I never understand concert etiquette, but those dungarees are something. Poor lads, most of us keep our early career mess-ups private.

catsrus Tue 29-Jan-13 22:33:54

What I don't understand is how anyone is meant to know what these unwritten rules about bands and gigs and dancing are? I've been to plenty of live events over the years, some standing, some sitting, some where people started to bop along at the end to the "big final encore" - but was shock when I went to a Fleetwood Mac reunion concert at Wembley arena a couple of years ago - took a friend as a treat as she is a huge fan, got decent seats (so I thought).

Everyone in our section was standing from the first song - the seats were so crammed together it was hard to stand upright and we couldn't see a bloody thing. The people up on the (cheaper) elevations were all sitting comfortably and could see everything - we could see nothing and were so uncomfortable that we left early. totally miserable experience as we couldn't even move properly if we'd wanted to dance as we were jammed in. It just wouldn't have happened in my local (very large) venue - they regularly take out the 'ground floor' seats for standing so you know what you're getting when you buy the ticket.

LynetteScavo Tue 29-Jan-13 20:16:50

Oh, I see. I'm guessing it was some retirement club outing.

EmpressOfThePuddle Tue 29-Jan-13 02:08:56

Lynette, it wasn't the lady they offered to swop with who was complaining, it was someone else altogether. Sounds like the old lady didn't really mind.

IceNoSlice Mon 28-Jan-13 21:19:46

HAHAHAHA at that Boyzone clip, that's the funniest thing I've seen today!

LynetteScavo Mon 28-Jan-13 20:57:14

I think if the old dear didn't want to stand she should have bought front of the section tickets.

You offered to swap seats.

I may well have asked staff to have a word with her to explain standing is acceptable. Dancing in the aisle would have soon got their attention. wink

TheDarkSideOfTheSpoon Mon 28-Jan-13 20:45:21

Oh yes pear, I'll be there with bells on grin although this time hoping for standing tickets only wink

I'm not sure I could keep up montage!

SpicyPear Mon 28-Jan-13 20:13:26

So spoon I take it you'll be hitting Ticketmaster hard on Valentine's Day?

RandallPinkFloyd Mon 28-Jan-13 20:03:35

Blimey, look at Ronan go!

montage Mon 28-Jan-13 19:58:21

But did it make you want to dance along?

TheDarkSideOfTheSpoon Mon 28-Jan-13 19:24:25

montage I love that clip, never fails to make me grin and cringe on equal measure!

scarlet yep, that's the beauty of an anonymous forum, I could be your respectable accountant in RL and you would never suspect my dirty little secret wink

montage Mon 28-Jan-13 19:15:05

Actually have all you UK mumsnetters been deprived of the classic clip that is Boyzone's first ever TV appearance on Irish TV?

They certainly danced then. grin

www.youtube.com/watch?v=iAOE2E9zxks

montage Mon 28-Jan-13 19:10:45

I like Ronan Keating on the basis that in a packed shop during Christmas madness one year he was the only person who stood back and cleared a path for me to get DS in his wheelchair through the ailse. (I was slightly surprised to see that the helpful man was Ronan Keating)

But I still don't understand how you dance to his music. Doesn't he do the slower kind of Boyzone song?

The ones where syncronished climbing off their stools at the key change consitutituted dancing?

SwedishEdith Mon 28-Jan-13 18:35:06

Grace Jones gets around doesn't she? <I was hula hooping as well>

SwedishEdith Mon 28-Jan-13 18:31:19

Worst thing about gigs is the other fans, I tell you

This is so true. I've been to gigs where people stand (too close to me) with their back to the stage chatting all night or just checking FB. Why??????

LucyGoose Mon 28-Jan-13 18:21:41

I can see the headlines now: "Potty mouth gran riots at Ronan Keating gig" LOL!!! If an older person called me that I would probably be so shocked and burst out laughing.

StuntGirl Mon 28-Jan-13 17:52:10

But they can't cover for everyone's personal circumstances can they? They can accommodate disabilities as far as they can but other illnesses/ailments/issues are tougher.

JuliaScurr Mon 28-Jan-13 17:03:48

that's why it's anonymous, scarlet

GetOrf Mon 28-Jan-13 16:11:35

ALF FUCKING STEWART

<goes away>

GetOrf Mon 28-Jan-13 16:10:40

Hang on Alf Roberts was in Corrie, Alf from Home and Away married to Ailsa. Alf Ramsay

GetOrf Mon 28-Jan-13 16:10:05

lol at the word morto. That sounds like something Alf Roberts would say.

scarletforya Mon 28-Jan-13 15:23:11

I am morto for you OP, admitting on a public forum that you went to a Ronan Keating concert!

Have you no shame?

JuliaScurr Mon 28-Jan-13 15:22:12

Wallison
the 3 areas of designated seating aren't provided for choice, wheelchairs get one area in each venue. It's usually not a good area.

Hully ?

Hullygully Mon 28-Jan-13 15:07:58

why would anyone even go to a gig? <mystified>

BupcakesAndCunting Mon 28-Jan-13 15:00:46

Whatever, Ubik. I did say I might have missed a joke but if you want to get a stick up your arse about it, carry on. You're being very defensive, when all that was needed was a "Yes I was joking!"

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